The Great Debate: Let's Get Real About Vaginal Orgasms

Are they actually a myth? 🤔

Recently, I was watching a documentary series on Netflix called Explained. I obviously dove vagina-first into an episode relating to the female orgasm.

There were all the usual suspects. The dismal statistics of the orgasm gap between women and men. The orgasm gap between straight women and lesbian women. The gap between female orgasms achieved during one night stands compared to the amount achieved during relationships. And so on, and so depressingly forth.

As someone who has scrutinised the female orgasm within an inch of its life (and not as a COSMO writer, even, but as a woman), I was enthralled when a conversation surrounding vaginal orgasms emerged during the episode.

Cue the G spot debate. Is it a real thing, and if so, is it a real thing for all women? Do vaginal orgasms even exist, or are all female orgasms actually the result of erectile tissue belonging to our clitoris? The clitoris, by the way, which is helluva a lot bigger than we’ve given it credit for, for the longest time.

The birth of the G Spot

In the ’80s, Rutgers College professor Beverly Whipple and her team were doing research on Kegel exercises for urinary stress incontinence, when they discovered that the strength of women’s pelvic floor muscles varied greatly. Speaking to Men’s Journal, Whipple explained their findings. ‘Most of the women who came to me had very weak muscles but some women had extremely strong pelvic floor muscles and they said they only seemed to lose fluid through the urethra during times of sexual activity or orgasm.’

These women apparently went on to report having a particularly sensitive area around the front wall of their vaginas. The stimulation of this area, in some of their cases, caused a loss of fluid and an orgasmic experience unlike the one achieved by a clitoral orgasm.

Over 400 women being examined by medical practitioners, and countless fingers being moved in a ‘come hither’ fashion later,  the G spot was born. So named after one Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg who was the first person to have written about this area of the female anatomy in 1950.

The controversy surrounding it

According to Whipple, the debates and controversy surrounding the existence of the G spot can be traced back to Dr. Vincenzo Puppo. The sexologist and physician has spent over a decade denying the existence of the G spot and vaginal orgasms in countless papers.

He believes that indeed, all orgasms are linked to the clitoris, whether direct clitoral stimulation is applied or not. The average clitoris is, after all, around 10cm long. What we see and stroke is barely the tip of the iceberg. In response to Vincenzo’s opposing view, Whipple asserts that she has never claimed that every single woman has a G spot. ‘I don’t know because not every woman has been examined.’

The thing is, regardless of if you’re team Whipple or Vincenzo, there’s no denying that each of us is different. What works for you may be the furthermost thing from effective for someone else. So, dear COSMO reader, I come to you with my head bowed. I have written about boob orgasms, brain-gasms, vaginal orgasms, and clitoral orgasms with abandon, despite a wave of confusion surrounding my own orgasm (or lack thereof) – be it clitoral, vaginal, or quite literally anything f*cking else relating to them. Except for the brain-gasm. I stand by that one.

Could it be that all this debate around our orgasm, and the variations thereof, are causing us to get even more into our heads than we already are?

Here’s to mindless, mind-blowing sex going into the silly season. Orgasm or no orgasm, G spot or otherwise.

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