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Dating Deal-Breakers pg7

In an ideal world, the early stages of a relationship are a delicious, cosy period when you and your PNM (Potential New Man) spend quality time together while each of you gradually discovers how fabulous the other is.

Unfortunately, the reality’s not that simple. The truth is, even if he generally likes what he sees, YOU ARE ON PROBATION. Once a man has made up his mind that you’re the woman for him, you’d be amazed what he’ll put up with. But while there’s still the option of an easy get-out, he’s on heightened alert to make sure you’re not a fully paid-up member of the mentalist club. While your PNM may be smiling, laughing and suavely refilling your wine glass, the reality is he’s watching for telltale signs that scream ‘Abort mission!’ So before you embark on a fledgling relationship, be aware of the dating no-nos that send a man’s ditch-o-meter into the red zone…

DAY 1 – FIRST DATE A female friend, who shall remain nameless, spent a gorgeous weekend in bed with a new guy and on Monday morning sent him a naughty SMS. I don’t know the exact wording, but the phrase ‘your big sausage’ figured. She never heard from him again. SMSing is casual and unthreatening, but before you start talking dirty – even if you’re doing it in a jokey way – remember that guys can be quite prudish. In fact, we’re often not that comfortable talking about sex, full stop (pathetic, I know), so don’t start quizzing him about his fantasies too early. As counsellor Paula Hall puts it, ‘Sex should be about gentle discovery. Until you’ve built up a degree of intimacy, having those sorts of conversations just doesn’t feel appropriate.’
DAY 2 – THE CALL
DAY 3 – DINNER
DAY 4 – WHAT NOT TO TALK ABOUT
DAY 5 – BACK TO YOURS
DAY 6 – SEX
DAY 7 – THE POST-SEX SMS
DAY 8 – STAYING OVER AT HIS
DAY 9 – THE FIRST ROW
DAY 10 – THE FINAL HURDLE

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