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I'd Never Had an Orgasm Until I Met This Life-changing Sex Toy

One tiny toy = plenty of pleasure.

Sex shouldn’t just be about the end goal – the big O. But try telling that to someone who has reached 32 years of age and hasn’t ever had an orgasm. Up until recently, I was one of these people. Sure, I have always felt good things in the right places, but nothing that left me in the blissed-out, semi-paralytic state that I had been lead to believe I should be experiencing. Maybe my expectations were too high? Maybe I hadn’t met the right partner? Or maybe I just hadn’t come across the right sex toy yet.

Go for O

After many years of feeling as though I was either incapable of reaching orgasm, or that I was having them but they were not blowing my mind, I started dabbling in sex toys. I have used a number of enormous, veiny, penis-shaped vibrators, a handful of smaller bullet-type ones and the occasional cock ring, all of which felt good, but not earth-shatteringly so. I had more or less given up on experiencing next-level pleasure feels. Then I stumbled upon a podcast by comedian Remy Kassimir, How Cum?, where she chronicles her attempts to orgasm (because apparently it’s not just me – phew!). At age 28 she eventually succeeded, and it was all thanks to a new generation of sex toys – clitoral massagers. I had to have one.

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Fortunately local sex toy retailer Olivia Grey had the Womanizer Liberty – one of the world’s best-rated clit stimulaters – available. And, just like that, my sex life was transformed.

Womanizer Liberty Undressed

So what exactly does this type of sex toy do and what makes it so good at doing it? Instead of vibrating, they emit pulses of air (known as Pleasure Air Technology. No, I didn’t just make that up) at various speeds that you can control. As you may have guessed, this sex toy focusses solely on your clit and, while it might not sound as effective as a vibrator, the gentle sucking and soft vibrations were enough to take me from the-girl-who-has-never-orgasmed to the-girl-who-can-now-orgasm-at-the-touch-of-a-button. Who even is my pre-orgasm self? I can’t remember.

If you are struggling to cross the proverbial finishing line, or you just want to enhance your sexual experience, we may have just found your new BFF. You’re wel-CUM!

1. Womanizer Liberty

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