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I Spent Masturbation Month Getting Reacquainted with Number One, Myself

Feeling myself.

If you are anything like me, you probably aren’t touching yourself enough. Busy schedules coupled with cultural taboos around masturbation means that we just don’t get around to any solo action. In fact, the results of a study conducted in 2014 show that 23.4% of men masturbate two to three times a week. And us ladies? Only a pitiful 7.9%.

Too Little Touch

The results of these statistics are not good. The reason? Many women struggle to climax through conventional, penetrative sex (me!) and fare far better when they are self-stimulating. And the knowledge about their body and what it likes and doesn’t like can only be learnt through rolling up your sleeves and getting to grips with your bits.

I am talking through experience (or a lack thereof) because I am guilty of not feeling myself much at all. But, with May being Masturbation Month, I decided that it was a good time to change that. Over the last few weeks I have made a concerted effort to have some one-on-one time with my vagina at least three times a week (hey, it’s progress!). During this time I made a new BFF, namely Barbara, my pink vibrator which comes with a larger section that is inserted vaginally, and a smaller fixture that stimulates the clit. So basically you get double the action in one neat device.

It took some getting used to, both the vibrator and the act itself, but these were small but necessary steps to take in order to feel more comfortable, both with my body and the act of intimate ‘self-care‘. And masturbation has so many positive side-effects, including lowering stress, aiding in sleep and those releasing feel-good chemicals, endorphins. Add to the list that it is the safest way to experience sexual pleasure, and you’ve got yourself a winning pastime. And it’s safe to say – at least in my case – that masturbation will be continuing past the month of May and beyond. Thanks, Barbara!

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1. Svakom Barbara Ultra-Soft Vibrator

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4. Sqweel Go Oral Stimulator

A wheel of 10 soft silicone tongue shapes turns at your chosen speed (there are three speed modes) to stimulate the clitoris. The wheel can also go into reverse mode, or ‘flicker’ mode, in which the tongue shapes move back and forth, offering a bit of variation

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5. 50 Shades of Grey Secret Touching Massager Mini Vibrator

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6. Liberty Womanizer

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