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8 Men Answer the Question: Does My Vibrator Offend You?

‘I think it’s sexy as hell’.

When it comes to sex, the last thing we as women need to do is concern ourselves with what men think about the sex we’re having with ourselves. But when it comes to committed relationships, is the idea that our vibrator poses a risk of replacing our partners tripping them up? On a recent AskReddit thread, a women asked men what they think about their partners using vibrators. And the responses were overwhelmingly in favour of the sex toy.

1 I want my partner to feel good

‘I understand that many (most?) women have difficulty reaching orgasm via PIV sex alone (or cannot do it at all). So why on earth would a vibrator offend me? Use it before, after, during sex – I’m all for everyone having a great time. Unless you are turning down sex in order to use your vibrator, no caring sex partner should ever have a problem with a toy. If they do, it’s their problem – not yours. Also, if it matters? I think it’s sexy as hell to watch a woman get herself off in whatever way works for her.’

2 Even from a totally selfish perspective…

‘Making sure that someone enjoys having sex with you is a pretty good way to ensure that they continue wanting to do so. Also, I find being inside a girl while using a vibrator to be a highly underrated experience.’

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3 Not offended at all

‘I love it when my fiancé uses hers while we have sex… last I checked my dick doesn’t vibrate so until it does we’ll just have to incorporate a vibrator.’

4 Personally, I find women who use toys in the bedroom to be more attractive

‘It shows a level of confidence and self-knowledge that can be really sexy. That being said, nobody wants to feel replaced by a toy. If you start turning him down for sex for some vibrator time, it could build resentment. Generally, I would say that toys are a welcome addition to the bedroom.’

5 I buy my wife toys all the time

‘Even though I wouldn’t be offended by her having them for personal use only… she’ll use them in front of me or even use some of the vibrating ones on me while she gets me off too. Which makes it all the better. My opinion is that is if you THINK your man might be offended by them, introduce them into your lovemaking so he feels like it’s for both of you rather than a replacement.’

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6 Vibes are great

‘They are really great for her. For me, though they get in the way, and I don’t like the vibration when she uses it while I am inside her. I can’t feel anything just numbness. I am not threatened by it. I just don’t always want it there.’

7 On one hand, obviously I’d like her to get off, and if that’s what it takes then that’s fine

‘On the other hand, it does feel a bit emasculating, am I not enough?, am I not doing the right thing? Am I just not good enough etc? It’s also a little hard to understand. For me my orgasm, although not guaranteed is only delivered in one way. So the idea of different types of orgasms is a bit foreign.’

8 The only thing I don’t like is when my wife uses it but doesn’t tell me

‘I get so turned on hearing she got off that I don’t want to miss out haha. Otherwise, it’s totally cool. Go nuts with it while I’m there, or while I’m not.’

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