If you haven’t read some truly awful stories about people using household items during sex and suffering the consequences, then good for you. But some people seem to think certain household items *cough, phallic vegetables, cough* are suitable DIY sex toys. They’re really not.
Good-quality sex toys need to be made from body-safe materials so that you and your vulva are kept in tip-top condition. But that doesn’t mean DIY sex toys are totally out of the question. Stephanie Alys, sex expert and founder of MysteryVibe, explains there are some safe items you can fashion and use for sexy play.
‘Recently we’ve seen the use of DIY sex toys rise as people look for things to increase the intimacy and get sexy at home,’ Alys says. ‘Cucumbers, hair brushes, mobile phones… These are all things people have experimented with during masturbation. Firstly, I don’t think any of us really want our mobile phone stuck inside us! Secondly – and most importantly – this is very dangerous. Inserting objects like this can upset the natural balances of your vagina and cause all sorts of infections.’
Alys explains it’s absolutely essential to educate ourselves about the importance of body-safe sex toys. It’s also super-important to take care of our genitals – think what they can do for us, after all!
‘This is not to say there aren’t ways you can have fun at home, with or without your favourite body-safe toy,’ she explains. Here, Alys shows us seven ways to DIY your household items into safe sex toys.
‘Tease and titillate your partner with the soft, delicate touch of a feather,’ Alys suggests. ‘Using feathers during sex is a great way to build anticipation and leave your partner craving your touch. Trace your lover’s body with the feather to heighten their sensations, leaving nerve-endings tingling from head-to-toe.’
2 Ice cubes
Temperature play can be a really fun way to try out new sensations and increase sensitivity. ‘Use an ice cube during oral sex, to tease nipples and to create light puddles you can both lick off each other’s bodies,’ Alys says.
‘Start by sucking an ice cube, before taking it out and giving your partner oral sex. At the same time, you can use that same ice cube to trace along their inner thighs. This mixture of hot and cold can really blow their mind.’ Don’t forget to take it in turns because trust us, being on the receiving end is amazing.
3 A tie
If you don’t have an old tie lying around, you could also try a scarf, ribbon or a piece of fabric to use as a blindfold. ‘Shutting off one of your senses naturally intensifies the others, which means you’ll be extra receptive to your partner’s touch,’ Alys says.
‘Using blindfolds is a great way to explore power during sex, giving you both a chance to play the dominant role. For lots of us, not being able to see also reduces inhibitions, which means you’ll be less focused on your ‘O face’ and more focused on every movement your partner makes.
4 Your shower head
This one might sound as clichéd as using your electric toothbrush, but ye olde shower head is much safer. ‘There’s a reason why masturbating in the bath or shower is so popular. Firstly, you’re already naked… You’re wet and slippery, you’re relaxed and you have some time to yourself,’ Alys says.
‘Take the shower head and press it against your clitoris, starting from cold to warm. If you have a fancy shower head with different intensity settings, now’s your chance to finally try them out.’
If you have a waterproof vibrator, you can also use this alongside the shower head for double the sensations.
5 A scarf
A scarf is an item of many talents, apparently. ‘Ask your partner to tie your wrists together, or to your headboard, and try your own power-play scenario,’ she suggests. ‘With your hands (and even your feet) tied, you won’t have any say in where your partner touches or squeezes. This will leave you feeling exhilarated, begging them for more.’