If you’re still unhappy about the series finale of Sex and the City more than 10 years later, you’re not alone. Show creator Darren Star recently gave a Kindle Singles interview in which he said that he thought Carrie Bradshaw should not have gotten her happy ending with Mr. Big. ‘I think the show ultimately betrayed what it was about, which was that women don’t ultimately find happiness from marriage,’ Darren said, per Us Weekly. ‘Not that they can’t. But the show initially was going off script from the romantic comedies that had come before it. That’s what had made women so attached.’
He went on to say that the choice for Carrie to end up with Big was made by other SATC writers and producers. ‘At the end, it became a conventional romantic comedy,’ he explained. ‘But unless you’re there to write every episode, you’re not going to get the ending you want.’ In 2014, SATC writer Liz Tuccillo expressed similar sentiments to Elle, noting that Carrie’s finale relationship status was a huge argument in the writers’ room.
‘We felt a big responsibility to end the show right,’ she said. ‘And by having every character with somebody, it means that ultimately, the show is about finding love in the big city and we’re going to be optimists and say that everybody’s found it. Everybody’s happy.’ Everybody except Lexi Featherston. She only found the sidewalk.
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