If there’s one person who’s been to a lot of nuptials, it’s a wedding photographer (side note: and a priest).
Which is why they’re probably the best at recognising the tell-tale signs of whether a wedding day is going smoothly, or if the marriage is doomed.
Someone asked wedding photographers to share the ‘red flags’ that a couple’s marriage is doomed on Reddit, writing the question, ‘Marriage/engagement photographers/videographers of Reddit, have you developed a sixth sense for which marriages will flourish and which will not? What are the green and red flags?’
The thread has had over 6,000 replies, with photographers nationwide sharing the ~very~ telling signs a couple is destined for failure, including faking their emotions to being unable to overcome small issues.
Here are some signs, according to photographers, that a marriage is doomed
The cake cutting
‘To me the biggest sign is the cake cutting,’ one photographer revealed. ‘Some people like to smear the cake everywhere as a joke, some people don’t. Usually, the couple is in sync about this. Sometimes one of them will force cake all over the others face and embarrass and upset them. I’ve seen this happen a handful of times and all of those relationships that I have kept up with have ended in a divorce.’ [Via]
The way they treat each other
‘You can tell somewhat based on how the couple treats each other on the wedding day,’ another continued. ‘If they are respectful toward one another (and toward me) during a day full of stress then I think that’s a good indicator of being able to deal with other problems that may arise during a marriage.’ [Via]
If one of them is very quiet compared to the other
‘Typically I see red flags when the bride or groom is super quiet. I mean silent and just watching. One instance was a groom who barely said ten words to anyone during the ceremony or reception afterwards – I dropped off the photo bundle with them two weeks later and he was still quiet. The bride complained about all of the pictures because the groom wasn’t “smiling enough”, and wanted a discount because I couldn’t make him look happy.’ [Via]
If they aren’t on the same team when things go wrong
‘It was pretty easy to tell which couples were going to last and which ones would soon be divorced,’ another commented. ‘The main behaviour differentiating the two was whether they were on the same team, helping each other and lifting each other up in the face of the inevitable problems and stress that come with weddings. Good couples tackle problems together. Bad couples take sides and fight/blame each other when something goes wrong.’ [Via]
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan UK
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