Death grip syndrome is reportedly the result of a man masturbating too tightly, thus desensitizing his penis when engaged in more ~*gentle*~ endeavours such as vaginal or anal penetration and blow jobs. Because of this, men who suffer from ‘death grip’ are unable to ejaculate from anything other than their vigorous masturbation.
While shrouded in much doubt and mystery as there’s no medical basis for this phenomenon, one look on Reddit shows countless tales of men struggling with and trying to recover from death grip. Apparently, overcoming it means abstaining from masturbation for an extended period of time.
When undertaking this, a lot of people look to NoFap for help. An online forum that aims to help people cut back on excessive masturbation and pornography use.
Two Redditors, one who suffers from death grip and one who’s dating a death grip sufferer, share their experiences.
1 The sensitivity I have now is awesome
‘I started this NoFap thing about three weeks ago and I like it a lot. In the past, I had gone at most about three weeks without porn, masturbation or orgasm (PMO). Finding NoFap made me realise the potential benefits I would receive if I stuck with it. The main thing I’ve noticed is that I definitely try harder to have sex or sexual activity with women and it seems to be working.
Before NoFap, I don’t think I was addicted to PMO, but I do think I masturbated too much. My habits varied but for a couple weeks at a time I would masturbate once a day, every day. I think I had given myself death grip. Sex with a condom made ejaculation nearly impossible, and blowjobs and hand jobs did nothing.
For the past three weeks I wouldn’t edge, but I would play with myself to get an erection. The sensitivity I have now is awesome. I recently got a hand job. Usually I would stop both hand and blowjobs because I’d just assume they weren’t going to get me off, which they usually don’t. However this time I was determined to ejaculate, it took a while but it worked! It actually felt great.
From now on I plan on not touching myself at all to increase my sensitivity and get used to the feeling of someone else. ‘
2 It’s still his hand finishing the work
‘My boyfriend has had death grip problems on and off for as long as he’s been sexually active. We go in cycles. He’ll decide to go on a break and stop masturbating for a while or try to limit how much he does it. When he does this the sex will be really good and he can finish in a reasonable amount of time. However inevitably he gets right back into his old habits and then yeah, it’s back to him having to finish himself and even then having a lot of difficulty.
I guess I just get worried that he doesn’t enjoy the sex we have as much as I do. Which would suck because I am of the opinion that the sex we have is really good. He seems to agree. He wants it as often as I do and is really enthusiastic. We talk about sex a lot – what we want and what we like as well as what could change. I know I’m not perfect but I feel like if there were something majorly off he would say.
He just seems so satisfied which throws me off since at the end of it all, it’s still his hand finishing the work. I have a hard time saying anything about it because I don’t want to pressure him or hurt his feelings, I think he’s a bit insecure about it already. So I kind of feel like just asking him “Do you really enjoy the sex we have??” would sound emotionally manipulative or something. It’s a tough situation.’
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