Even if you’ve been sexing for years, we all still have a ton of questions about the one thing people have been doing since the start of human history. You can’t hide from Google. Google knows. Here are your most common sex questions – answered.
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Question: ‘Am I normal?’ As in, ‘How does my sex drive compare to other people’s?’ ‘Are my fantasies weird?’ ‘Does my vagina look okay?’ ‘Do I masturbate too often/not often enough?’ We want to know, because as kids we didn’t talk about it and as adults, we crave reassurance that we’re fine.
Answer: Of course you are. As long as your sex life isn’t harming you or anyone else, there’s no point being concerned about your desires or the way your genitals look. ‘Normal’ encompasses an impossibly broad range of behaviours and bodies, and you should never feel embarrassed or ashamed for exploring your sexuality. Have fun with it!
Question: ‘How often do most people have sex?’ Because you can’t help but feel like everyone in the universe is getting it on way more than you are (or more than you want to).
Answer: Research has shown that most couples who have been married for a while have sex about once or twice a week. For new couples, it happens a lot more often, but we are not machines, and the frequency decreases over time.
Question: ‘Can you get pregnant from pre-cum?’
Answer: Sorry – experts answer this with a resounding yes. Some men’s reproductive systems leak small amounts of sperm into their pre-cum. And as you know, one is all it takes…
Question: ‘Why can’t I orgasm?’ It’s not that you’re not turned on, and you know you should be having orgasms but you just can’t.
Answer: While the issue can be medical, it’s mostly all in your head. Most people who struggle to orgasm aren’t providing themselves with enough sex-positive thoughts. Keep your eye on the prize and don’t get distracted. As soon as you start thinking about how long it’s taking, you lose your sexual momentum. Stay focused on your own pleasure.
Question: ‘Can you get pregnant on your period?’
Answer: Yes! Don’t neglect contraception just because Aunt Flo’s arrived. It’s very possible to get pregnant if you have unprotected sex, full stop.
Question: ‘Everyone is always going on about how amazing oral sex is. Why can’t I get into it?’
Answer: Because – let’s face it – it can feel downright weird to have someone alllll up in your business. But it’s not because you’re frigid or uptight. It can be difficult to get in the mood if you’re feeling uncomfortable. The common concern is the assumption that he couldn’t possibly be enjoying it, and as a result you don’t. it could also be self-consciousness about the way you taste/smell/look. Just know that, if he didn’t want to be down there, he wouldn’t be. And if you genuinely don’t like it, don’t sit through it!