Sure, there are about ten thousand different ways to do the deed, but according to bestselling relationship author John Gray, a healthy relationship only needs these three to keep you both satisfied and loved up.
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1. Romantic ‘gourmet’ sex. This is the type of sex that takes a substantial amount of build-up. Put on your sexiest underwear in the morning as an all-day reminder of what’s coming later. Shoot off a few sexy, anticipatory texts throughout the day. That evening, have a romantic, candlelit dinner and spice up the set-up in the bedroom. You’ve had all day to build up the tension, which will make the eventual sex incredible. Do it slowly and seductively, and savour it.
2. Healthy ‘home-cooked’ sex. This is your regular, comfortable, run-of-the-mill sex. It has none of the frills of romantic sex but is just as necessary in a healthy relationship. Get your 20 minutes of foreplay, do the deed, then cuddle afterwards. This is the type of sex you should be having on a regular basis – at least once or twice a week.
3. Quickie sex. This can be oral or actual intercourse. The thrill of the encounter is that it’s fast, often squeezed into busy schedules for some, uh, stress release. It should only take a couple of minutes and you can even use lube to speed it up. It’s fast, it’s hot and it’s a necessary addition to your couples’ repertoire.