Great sex isn’t just a matter of foreplay followed by the main event – intimacy is about more than just the act. It’s something that involves all five senses. Sex is so much better when you’re focused on the pleasure rather than the performance. Here are Durex’s tips on how to bring in all your senses for sex that’s truly, well, sensual.
What we see is usually the first trigger of our sexual desire – whether it’s your man getting undressed or you wearing his favourite pair of heels and red lipstick. What we see doesn’t just refer to our eyes – it also involves our imagination. The brain is considered the most powerful sex organ – an orgasm requires the right state of mind as much as it needs a state of arousal (some women are even able to think themselves into an orgasm, no hands required). Capitalise on the sense of sight by doing it with the lights on or treating your partner to a sexy striptease. Too shy? Think about what turns you on until you actually get turned on.
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He wants to know when you’re feeling good so tell him. You don’t have to yell at the top of your lungs – the poor neighbours! But there’s nothing wrong with a few sounds to let him know you’re responding positively to what he’s doing. Hearing the words ‘That feels so good’ is as sexually gratifying for him as seeing you take your top off.
You wouldn’t think of smell playing a huge role in sex but it does. Pheromones – the chemicals our body produces that are responsible for whether we find someone attractive or not – have a huge influence on how much someone excites us sexually. Many of us don’t even realise that we’re drawn in by the natural smell of our partner. So don’t hose yourself down in 1000 scented products – you’re not a soap aisle in a shop. Lightly spritz your favourite perfume, let it blend in with your natural scent and you’ll be more appealing than ever.
Engaging in the sense of taste can make sex much hotter. Our taste buds are extremely sensitive so experimenting with different flavours during sexytime will make it even better. Try eating strawberry or watermelon pre-makeout, or use flavoured lubricants during oral sex.
Believe it or not, touch is the most underused sense during sex. It’s the one you can’t avoid but it’s also the one you should be making a lot more use of. We usually tend to go for what we know will be good but changing things up will make it even better. Use the erogenous zones to heighten pleasure. Experiment with different touches – think neck, lower stomach, inner thighs and the small of the back. Vary the lightness of your touches from soft, light strokes to more meaningful rubs.
Now, go forth and have the best sex of your life!