A bit shy when it comes to sexting? Here’s a guide to great sexting. Keep these notes in mind the next time you hit up a bae and you’ll be considered a pro-sexter.
While sexting can get pretty raunchy, jumping in with really rude words can feel a little contrived – and might scare him more than excite him. So, if you’re a little shy start with subtle suggestions, like ‘love the way you kissed me last night. Can’t wait for more…’ Or, ‘Just bought the cutest lingerie ever. You’re gonna drool when you see it on!’. Chances are, he’ll take the bait and things will hot up naturally from here.
Keep it cute
The sexiest thing of all is a bit of mystery. If he asks you for a picture, don’t send something you might find in a gynaecologist’s handbook. Instead, send a pic of yourself in a pair of short shorts and a halter top, or a cute pair of panties and a bra, with a message that says ‘I can’t wait for you to turn this cherry out’. Being allowed to imagine what’s under your clothes is seriously sexy for a guy. Or, if he insists on seeing your boobs and it’s still early days, send an emoticon (o)(o) instead. That’ll tell him you’re up for fun without you giving anything away.
Don’t sext anyone you haven’t already had sex with
Sending super suggestive messages to guys you’re not involved with is a bit tricky as it can count as leading him on if you don’t follow through on what you’ve said. Keep the steamy messages for your boyfriend. It might ‘just’ be a text, but it can and will be held against you. Here’s a comeback should a cutie you’re into send steamy texts: ‘a lady never tells…’ It’s cheesy, but it’s playful, sexy and safe.
Do sext something you wouldn’t do in real life
Sexting is part of fantasy – feel free to let your imagination run wild. What if you have no intention of swallowing or trying the back door? Anything goes in imagination land, just let him know that what your sexting is part of your sexual wishful thinking. It will get him hot, which is the point of sexting. Have a favourite sexy song? Send him the lyrics. Google 1990s lyrics if you’re at a loss for words.
Keep the momentum without burning out
If your boyfriend loves sexting and his messages tend to be wilder than you’re used to, don’t feel obliged to match his raunchiness. You can show your enthusiasm in more subtle ways. If he writes, ‘I can’t wait to …. Your ….’, write back, ‘hmmmm… now that sounds delicious!’. Or, ‘I’ll be waiting…’ This way, he’ll know you’re as keen as he is without you straying too far from your comfort zone.