It’s great being in a long-term relationship, but sometimes the sex suffers. If you’ve found that the guy who used to turn you on just by looking at you is coming second place to your book, it’s time to change things up.
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1. Go back to the beginning.
When you first got together with your guy, you gave yourself the full supermodel treatment: blowouts, manis, the works. Now that you’ve been together for some time, it’s easy to let things slide – admit it, you have no qualms about letting him see you pluck your eyebrows. While you have to be comfortable with each other, it’s really difficult to feel like a vixen when you don’t think of yourself as one – so get back to that place where you agree with him that, yup, you’re super-hot.
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2. Take a break.
You’re probably thinking, umm, just how is not having sex supposed to improve my sex life? Here’s how: he’s going to want you sooo much, and you’re going to feel the exact same way. So, when you do get it together after a couple of weeks, even the missionary position is going to feel like something really naughty. To make it even hotter, go realllly slowly: spend a night where you’re not allowed to do anything more than foreplay, another where you aren’t actually allowed to talk to each other… You get the picture.
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3. Make it a movie night.
To really sex things up, make sex a part of your routines. Taking a shower? Invite him to join you. Planning a night on the couch? Great – just make sure you’ve ditched your usual box set for something like Game Of Thrones – seeing all those naked people will make you want to get naked too.
4. Sort out your ish.
Secretly resenting him because he hasn’t done his share of the chores lately, or because you feel he’s not really ‘there’? Guess what: it’s not so secret. If you’re dealing with things in a passive-aggressive manner, your sex life’s bound to suffer – and that means you’re losing out, too.