Elmari Craig is a sexologist and relationships expert based in Pretoria. We asked her to address your burning questions, so you can stop freaking out and start getting your freak on – if y’know what we mean.
My boyfriend’s semen stings me. Is there something wrong? And what can I do about it so I can enjoy sex again?
‘A stinging sensation probably means you weren’t adequately lubricated during sex, resulting in tiny tears along the vaginal wall,’ explains Craig. ‘This can often lead to a burning sensation during or after sexual intercourse.
‘Make sure there is enough foreplay so that you’re aroused to ensure proper lubrication. Use a plain, water-based lubricant if you use condoms – and avoid flavoured ones as they often contain chemicals that can irritate skin, making the burning even worse.
‘If you do not use condoms, opt for a silicone-based lubricant as it lasts longer and keeps its smooth texture.
‘If you’re still stinging, you might be allergic to semen. It’s a very rare condition, but using condoms and a quality lubricant will keep his semen from inflaming your vaginal area.’
Still not having any joy? Book an appointment with your doctor or gynae, who can assess your personal situation and give further expert advice.
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