Online dating sucks. But, what if I told you that with a few tips and tricks, it doesn’t have to? Here’s news for you, girl: Yes, you can control the quality of your matches based solely off of how you set up your own bio.
And the best part? Hopefully you’ll never have to deal with one of those peeps who leave you stuck in texting purgatory—or worse, someone who’s way better via text than they are IRL.
To save your sanity and standards, Tinder’s dating and relationship expert, Dr. Darcy Sterling, PhD, gives tips on how to optimise your Tinder profile to make you stand out in a sea of ‘Looking for my Jim Halpert’ bios, you’re welcs.
1 Show your personality
‘Everyone needs help initiating a conversation,’ says Dr. Sterling. So include facts like: whether or not you’re a huge Game of Thrones fan, believe in pineapple on pizza, or stan Ariana Grande’s new album. Use your bio as a place to let your personality shine and give your matches enough intel about you so they can easily strike up a convo.
Pro tip: Offer up an open-ended question in your bio—like, ‘If you could have dinner with anyone in the world, who would it be?’—so that people can respond directly to you with an answer.
2 Be direct
You don’t have to straight up say, ‘Serious Inquiries Only’ (this isn’t a job interview!), but you can definitely make it known that you’re looking more for a potential DTR convo rather than a late night ‘WYD?’ text. If you’re able to directly state what you’re looking for (but, like, in a cute way), this gets rid of all the people not looking for what you are right from the beginning. Write something like, ‘Looking for someone to impress the hell out of my parents with their Kansas City Chiefs knowledge.’
3 Wear bright colours
I get it, I know you rock that LBD so well, but show off some colour. It makes you pop! Plus, if your feed is anything like the peeps in New York, swiping through a swarm of black shirt profiles will make your profile look unique, and they’ll naturally have to stop and check out your profile more in-depth.
4 Show your fave activities
If you’re brunching every weekend, snap a picture of you with that mimosa. (But, if you don’t like drinking, don’t have a picture included of you sipping on anything unless it’s water or coffee.) If you love museums, choose the photo that shows you gazing at a piece of artwork. You want your profile to look as genuine to YOU as possible.
5 Nix the hat and sunglasses
People want to see your gorge face, duh! Wearing sunglasses in your photos ‘can come across as being standoffish,’ explains Dr. Darcy. Plus, whether you’re wearing a hat or sunglasses, anything that hides your face decreases your chance of a right swipe by 12 percent, according to Tinder’s data.
6 Turn on ‘Smart Photos’ in your info tab
This Tinder feature tests your top pics and automatically puts the one with the most right swipes at the very front. In other words, Tinder does the work for you, ensuring you get more matches. Let them work their magical algorithm!
7 Don’t hide behind your friends
We get it, you have friends. But this is YOUR dating profile, not theirs. Keep the pictures focused on you so that everyone knows very clearly who they’re swiping right on.
8 Use all of Tinder’s features
Dr. Darcy recommends linking your Instagram to your Tinder Profile so that it shows you’re not hiding anything. And don’t worry about getting random, creepy follows from peeps you swiped left on—they can’t see your IG handle from your Tinder profile.
You can also debut your fave bop by adding a Spotify anthem, which gives matches just another thing to bond with you over.
9 Insert a Loop
AKA, the Boomerang of Tinder. It’s a two-second video that can posted to your profile. Use it just because it’s cute, fun, and breaks up your static pictures a little bit more so people can see more of your personality.
10 Show full frontal
Face straight ahead in your profile pics—and while you’re at it, smile! Individuals who are seen in pictures directly facing the camera are 20 percent more likely to be swiped right on, relative to the peeps facing sideways, or not showing themselves really at all.
11 Create a cute quiz
This is just another great way to build in a conversation-starter directly into your bio for your matches. For example, ‘What’s Your Sunday Go-To?’ A. Hitting the gym, AKA sweating out all the alc. B. Do I smell mimosas? C. Taking my Frenchie to the doggie park, because, duh. D. Bingeing all true crime docs.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan US
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