Case in point: Kate Winslet’s Oscar-winning performance in The Reader. This week we posed one simple question to the COSMO team: What film changed the way you thought about relationships?
Imogen Pretorius – Art Editor
He’s Just Not That Into You: I often hear women in general talk about whether they should phone the guy or not. For days and weeks multiple discussions revolve around whether to do it or not. From experience I’ve learnt that if they don’t call/e-mail/MSN/fax/SMS/Skype it means ‘they’re just not that into you’. This movie just confirmed it for me, once again.
Lenina Rasool – Features Writer
Pretty Woman: It’s a Mills & Boon thing. Girl meets boy, girl hates boy, hate turns into lust, lust into love and we all live unhappily, passionately ever after. It’s hard to pinpoint what I’ve learned, but movies with unlikely hook-ups always have me hooked. Never Been Kissed, Clueless, 10 Things I Hate About You, She’s All That… They show that love happens in the unlikeliest places and with the unlikeliest people. It helped me stop waiting and looking for love, and trust that I’ll know when it happens. Knowing that gave me time to work on myself and made me a very happy single woman. These films also taught me that heartbreak is not the end of the world. They’d all been hurt, but they all got on with their lives and over it in the end. They also taught me not to jump to conclusions and that men are very stupid. There’s always some twist in this movie where the guy gets caught out. I listen first now.
Pontsho Ramontsha – Junior Features Writer
Closer: I use to like the notion of the fairytale love with its ‘happily ever after’, but after watching this movie I realised it’s seldom black and white in relationships, just mostly a big mist of grey. And there’s no bad guy and good guy, everyone is somehow flawed. And love is messy, and sex makes it messier.
Ania Rokita – Chief Copy Editor
The Notebook: Obviously. It made me decide not to settle for anything less than that kind of devotion, which probably means I’ll be single for a long time… hahaha.
Christine Curtis – Copy Editor
Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind: The harmony between Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet’s odd-ball characters and the way they chose to make things work helped me realise people, and what they bring into a relationship, don’t have to be perfect for the bond between them to be strong and fulfilling. Admittedly, the cinematography is bewildering, and the storyline full of surprises and sometimes downright strange, but it’s all worth it – kind of like love, really.
Leigh Cann – Senior Designer
The Mexican: They both realise that, despite the shit they give each other, it’s all part of the reason they love each other, actually.
Lutho Vuso – Picture Assistant
Something’s Gotta Give: The relationship between Jack Nicholson and Amanda Peet made me realize there’s someone out there for all for us and love will find you when you least expect it. It changed the way I thought about older men who are too scared to submit to love by wanting less challenging relationships with younger woman. I got to see them human beings who are simply running away from commitment and truth. I was totally taken in when Jack says to Amanda ‘You are a woman to love’ and how their romance unfolds.
Deevya Vasson – Junior Beauty Editor
Stardust: Every time I saw Claire Danes literally glowing whenever she was near her man, made me want to feel the same way. Also the fact that these outcasts became king and queen in the end made me realize that if you love each other for who and what you are, it’s equivalent to being kings and queens of your own world.
Annelee Joubert – Fashion Editor
Rocky Horror Picture Show: I saw it for the first time when I was 12; it was my mom’s favourite movie and she watched it a lot. At first, I thought it was a movie about gay vampires. I’m still not entirely sure what it’s about, but my little lesson was that there are many different kinds’ people in this world and they are not all bad, even if they dress in fishnets and high heels, and they are all male.
Mishkah Rinquest – Fashion Assistant
He’s Just Not That Into You: This movie is what relationships are all about: the truth, the deceit, the loyalty, etc. Now we all know how a guy’s mind works and what he’s really trying to say, in a very subtle way.
Romy Heldsinger – Promotions Manager
Dirty Dancing: It’s about a girl who defies her upbringing and stands by the man she loves, who everyone else considers to be from the wrong side of the tracks; but of course she can see through all that. Dancing and love – the perfect combination.
Julia Pretorius – Promotions Executive
The Notebook: It’s all about unconditional, genuine love, and loving your partner with every fibre of your being just because they are who they are – no other reason.
Kate Morris – Promotions Designer
P.S. I Love You: It showed me that men can still be huge romantics. And there really is such a thing as true love.
Lindi Brownell – Online Intern
Shirley Valentine: When I first watched this movie about a middle-class woman suffering in the silence of suburbia and trapped in a monotonous marriage, I realised how important it was to keep a relationship exciting. It’s important to spice things up and go out together, experiencing new things as a couple. Shirley wouldn’t have needed to escape to Greece and have a holiday fling if her relationship was satisfyingly stimulating.
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