‘We literally watched DVDs all the time. We never went out. Ever. We’d go out for anniversary dinners, but that was about it. It was horrible, because it was all about routine. We’d come home, get a DVD, watch it, go to sleep, and that was it,’ says Nina*, a 24-year-old photographer based in Durban.
What starts off with excitement, lust and sweet-nothings can slowly shift into work-eat-sleep and a monotonous routine. Break the cycle in your relationship and get back to impromptu getaways and loving surprises.
Breakfast in bed
Waking him up in the morning with a cup of coffee and his favourite breakfast will not only get him off to a good start, he’ll be truly grateful for the effort you’ve made. And if you’re always rushed in the morning, leave it for the weekend. Either way, he’ll appreciate the thought.
Pick a night of the week when you know neither you nor your man has to work late or wake up for an 8am meeting, and go out for a quiet dinner. Take him to a romantic little bistro or the restaurant where you had your first date. Think fairy lights and soft music, not bustling bars and noisy franchises.
Waiting for birthdays and special occasions to give each other gifts sucks the spontaneity out of your relationship. Don’t wait for his birthday to give him a gift; if you see something you know he’ll appreciate, buy it. It doesn’t have to be the latest flat screen – as long as there’s a loving thought behind it, a surprise present will mean more to him than you probably think.
Even if it means one night in a nearby hotel or a weekend away, getting out of the city can’t do any harm. Lazing by the pool on a hot summer’s day, day-tripping to a wine farm or using the hotel’s spa will leave you both feeling relaxed and at ease with one another. And just remember: hot summer days lead to hot summer nights…
Lose the PJs…
Wearing a comfortable nightie, tracksuit bottoms or an oversized T-shirt may be comfortable to sleep in, but why not give him a show with some sexy lingerie for a change. He won’t be able to keep his hands off black lace and suspenders. Trust us, we know.
…and get raunchy
Forget missionary. Explore each other and get creative with your minds and bodies. If you’re lost for ideas, check out our sex positions for some ravishing tips.
*Name has been changed