Is He Ready For Marriage? pg1

Dying to bring up the ‘M’ word? Read this first!

So, you get along with his family, like nearly everything about him and you can totally see yourself spending the rest of your life with this guy. But, even as he humours your obsession with reality TV wedding shows, the M-word has never raised its little tulle head. You don’t want to freak him out by pre-empting a discussion about commitment but, at the same time, you need to know if he’s as serious about you as you are about him. And, let’s face it (tick, tick…), you don’t have forever to wait.

‘When it comes to men and marriage, there’s good news and there’s bad news’, says couples counsellor, Paula Turnbull. ‘The good news is that his silence around the issue of commitment is not necessarily a bad sign. Men tend not to prioritise marriage in the same way women do. While little girls plan their frock and dream of their wedding day, men seldom think about it until it’s time to do the deed. But, with a little encouragement, they usually muster up enough enthusiasm to show up in a penguin suit and fork out for the flowers.’

The bad news is if he hasn’t mentioned marriage because he’s not ready. There is nothing you can do to hurry him up. Men have their own ‘biological clocks’, and if his isn’t ticking to the beat of the bridal march, you could be in for a long wait. Remember the SATC episode where they compared a man ready for marriage to an empty taxi? When he’s ready for commitment, his ‘available’ light goes on and the next woman he meets gets the rock. If not, he’ll just keep stalling. Luckily, there are some clear signs to watch out for if he’s ready to mate for life.

Acts Like a Husband As April Masini, author of Date Out Of Your League (Turnkey Press) explains, ‘When a man is ready to become a husband, he starts acting like a husband. For instance, he will make plans for the future, introduce you to his friends and family, and not only call you, but want to tell you the details of his day and have a desire to hear about yours.’

Says Turnbull, ‘If he’s honest and open about all aspects of his life and refers to the future with you in it, he’s more than likely ready to take the next step.’ Other signs are his being comfortable with you reading his e-mails over his shoulder, meeting his mom for lunch and answering his phone.

Can Support a Family
Shuns The Singles Scene
Wants To Be a Daddy

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