If you’ve got a scary heavy mouth-breathing alter-ego lurking in a corner of your psyche, put a sock in her mouth before she ruins everything.
Just because you’re feeling a little insecure, there’s no reason to go all psycho on your boyfriend’s ass.
Yes, it can feel good to tiara up and let rip. It can be strangely thrilling to drama-bomb the hell out of an unsuspecting dude and then watch as the fall-out unfolds. But the truth is: once you’ve let The Crazy Girlfriend out of her box, it’s very hard to put her back in it.
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You can never take back what you say when in this mode, and you can’t erase the impression you’ve made, either. And no matter whether you say your sorries and receive full forgiveness, he’ll have a new idea of you. You’ll have gone from Cool Chick to Maybe Mad, and it’s a very hard place to claw your way back from.
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So when The Crazy Girlfriend pokes you in the ribs and prompts you to say things like, ‘You don’t text me nearly as much as I text you,’ or ‘You never have time for me’, or ‘Admit it; you think she’s hot and want to be with her, not me,’ don’t let her commandeer your mouth for her business. You’re much better than her, so give her the cold shoulder, put down the tiara and take some time out for yourself.
All that’s going on is that you’re getting a bit intense and over-thinking stuff. Taking a little time out to assess and take charge of your expectations is a far better way to deal than extreme meltdown any day.
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