Jealousy can (and should) occasionally creep into any healthy relationship. Often, it’s unwarranted … but definitely not always. These are the seven times when, actually, you have every right to feel jealous.
1. He spends more time with his ‘work wife’ than he spends with you.
Work is where he spends the majority of his day. Of course he’s developed friendships with his coworkers. But, if you’re constantly hearing about how he went for lunch with Lisa, or he gave her a ride home, or he stopped off at her flat to fix a leaky tap, you can’t be blamed for feeling slightly threatened.
Related: 7 Times You Should NOT Be Jealous
2. He always turns to his friends for advice before you
You want to be given the opportunity to help your partner. If he isn’t really giving you the chance, or he holds the advice of other people in higher regard, you might have reason to feel a little green. Let him know you want to feel like your advice matters, too.
3. He spends more nights with his friends
Obviously you can’t spend every minute together – you don’t want to either. But if your date-nights are constantly being cancelled in favour of beer with his bros, there’s a problem. You want to feel like he wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.
4. He literally won’t shut up about how hot someone else is
We’re all attracted to a lot of people – we’re humans, it’s what we do. That doesn’t mean he has to rub in your face how gorgeous he finds some other woman. It’s unnecessary and, well, pretty douche-y. Unless she’s your doppelgänger (this is a big NOPE).
5. He shares in-jokes with his ex
You get it – they have a history. That doesn’t mean they have to speak in a totally different language whenever the two of them are together. It’s kind of disrespectful towards you – you have every right to feel jealous.
6. He openly flirts with another woman
Some people are flirtatious by nature. If your guy is basically a walking wink-emoji, he needs to learn how to tone it down. It’s perfectly understandable that it would make you uncomfortable, and he should respect that.
7. You hear important things about your partner – from other people
It’s only natural to expect your partner to share, if not everything, at least most things with you. If you’re hearing big news about his life from his friends or coworkers, you can be forgiven for feeling annoyed. You’re his girlfriend, after all!