Everyone’s always telling us not to expect too much in our relationships. While it’s true that you shouldn’t be demanding ‘flowers every anniversary’ or for him to apologise ‘after every fight’ (shout out to the future husband of Meghan Trainor – that poor, poor soul), there are a bunch of things you have every right to expect. Here are seven of them.
1. Expect him to treat you with respect
You should never have to feel like the person you’re with belittles you. If he makes you feel bad about yourself in any way, it’s not a relationship worth having.
2. Expect that there will be mutual trust
In a healthy relationship, both of you should trust each other enough to have separate lives. If you feel like you have to worry the second he’s out of your sight, or if he’s constantly messaging you when you’re out with your friends, something is a little bit off.
3. Expect that he won’t try to change you
If he tries to change anything about you – no matter how big or small – your relationship isn’t in a very good place. Instead of him trying to change you, you should want to better yourself for him. You should never, ever be made to feel like it’s something you have to do.
4. Expect that, even if he doesn’t share your interests, he’ll support them
He may not get your obsession with celebrity gossip (hey, it’s not something you’re proud of either) but aside from the occasional eye-roll he doesn’t make you feel totally silly. And he’ll gladly pretend to listen to the latest Kardashian scandal.
5. Expect that he won’t be put off by your differing opinions
You’re a free agent, and you’re not going to change your beliefs just because they’re not the same as your partner’s. If, for some ridiculous reason, he can’t handle that, he’s definitely not the right person for you.
6. Expect that he won’t be able to read your mind – but you should feel comfortable telling him how you feel
No matter how close you are, you can’t assume he’ll know exactly what you want from a single grunt. Sometimes he’ll be slow on the uptake. And when he is, it’s up to you to feel secure enough to broach problems with him. It’s a major red flag if you feel like you can’t talk to him about any issues you’re having.
7. Expect to feel happy when you’re together
You should love being with him! It’s as simple as that. If he makes you happy, you’re on the right track.