Now that you’ve cut the cake and thrown the bouquet, you’re about to learn a horrid truth: the first year of marriage is hard, hard work. Sure, it’s also a lot of fun – but the reality is that your new life as a wife is probably going to be quite different to how you imagined it.
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Here’s how to survive…
1. Remember that it’s not all about you. When you were single, and even engaged, you could have cereal for dinner and have after work drinks that lasted all night, if you wanted them to. Now there’s someone else you’ve got to think about, and his needs are just as important as yours.
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2. But it’s not all about him, either. We know that you’re not a 1950s Stepford, but it’s worth saying nevertheless: you’re equals. No one is more worthy, or more important, than anyone else. It’s a partnership and you both have to respect each other and make room for each other. That means there’s going to be a lot of compromising going on, and you might sometimes find yourself dragged into situations you’d rather not be in (dinner with the in-laws again?) but so will he.
3. Take stock of the differences in your life. Your relationship might be different to when you had yet to make your commitment. Added to that, you might be feeling a bit flat once the excitement of the wedding and honeymoon are over. If you’re prepared for that, accepting it might be a bit easier.
4. Get ready for the war zones. Most married couples fight over three things: chores, money and personal hygiene. It’s worth having a chat about these before the Big Day so that you already have an idea of how to handle them.
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5. Make life exciting. While you were engaged, there was so much to keep you occupied. Now there’s the danger that you’ll sink into a routine of box sets and heat-and-eat dinners. Don’t let that happen! Plan date nights well in advance, and keep them interesting and varied, so there’s always something to look forward to.