In a time where f*ckboys flourish and it’s commonplace to never know where you stand with someone, it can be tricky to let your guard down. Here, 10 ways to tell if he’s right for you…
1 You’re not trying to be ‘chill’ any more
The days of waiting 112 minutes to respond to a text (even though you’re staring at your phone) have come and gone, and you’re as comfortable talking to him as you are with your best friends. Those ‘playing it cool’ games have diminished and you’re able to talk about your feelings rather than trying to appear indifferent.
2 Your friends like him
For the life of me, I don’t understand why we overlook this so often. If your sister and best friends and mother all have an issue with the guy you’re dating, there’s a reason for it. I’m not saying he has to be their absolute favourite, but if they all have a bad feeling about him, you shouldn’t ignore it. If they can see why you like him, and even like him themselves, fabulous. Commence sex!
3 You’re on the same page
While there’s nothing quite like the cringe that comes with the exclusivity conversation, it’s a necessary one to have. Is he as keen to lock down the relationship as you are? Is exclusivity even important in your relationship? If you’re on the same page, you’re onto a winner.
4 That Samantha Jones sex
The sex is good. Really good. He’s generous in bed and has befriended your clitoris by gifting it with orgasms.
5 Your freak flag… IT FLIES
You can belt out the Disney soundtrack in front of him without a care in the world, or divulge that you spent your entire Sunday watching a season of Survivor that aired 13 years ago. He doesn’t care. He likes your weirdness. He adds your weirdness to his Instagram story to share your brand of weird with the world. He asks for an encore of Colours Of The Wind and then routes for the Survivor contestant that you do.
6 He gives you all the room for activities
There is nothing, NOTHING, worse than being with someone who is clingy. He takes no issue with your weekly girls’ night out or the fact that you like to spend your Saturday mornings alone doing Crayon art.
7 He calls you on your sh*t
If you provoked your bestie into a fit of rage when she wasn’t even at fault, he’ll tell you to apologise. Cheerleaders are great, but honesty is better.
8 You get on with his friends
Just as your squad has a good idea of what kind of person is right for you, his squad knows the same. If you like spending time with them and feel comfortable around all the boys, it most likely means they believe that the two of you are good together.
9 He respects you
I know you’re rolling your eyes and thinking, ‘Oh, how very obvious’, but I mean it. He respects you not only in the big, obvious ways, but in the little ways too. He respects your space by making your bed after a sleepover. He respects your roommates by not walking around in his underwear. He respects your choices by not insisting you eat steak when he knows you’re trying to cut meat from your diet. You get the point.
10 You fight well
There’s fighting with your partner, and then there’s fighting constructively with your partner. If you can resolve your issues without feeling like every argument will lead to a break-up, it means you’re compatible in a really important way.
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