A rim job or ‘anilingus’ is the stimulation of an anus with a tongue or mouth. For those who have never ventured to this mysterious neck of the woods before, it can sound pretty… daunting. But here’s the thing: many people love it.
And why shouldn’t they? The anal wall is packed with sensitive nerve endings. The key is to make sure it’s done hygienically, so before you dive in, make sure your partner is fresh out of the bath or shower after a good ol’ clean.
Here are some tips from those with experience in the rim job arena
1 Enthusiasm is key
‘I hate a meh ass eating. Go for it like you just found an oasis in the desert. I try different pace and movement, from circular to poking the hole with your tongue.’ [Via]
2 And so is confidence
‘Be enthusiastic! Fake confidence if you don’t have it – go in like you’ve done it a million times and know you’re good at it. I think in this case if your partner realizes how hungry you are to please him/her, it’s gonna compensate for any real or perceived lack of skill. Have fun.’ [Via]
4 Get yourself in the mood
‘In my case, it helps to get psyched up for something like this. Spend a couple of weeks masturbating to pornography that specializes in whatever you are about to do. Then, when the time comes to perform, you will not have to fake enthusiasm. I used this trick to great success when I was dating a girl into feet.’ [Via]
5 Start with the basics
‘Mix it up. Tickling and teasing the anus gently is a good way to get things going.’ [Via]
6 Remember the first rule of beginner’s rim job club
‘NO TEETH.’ [Via]
7 Set the scene
‘I start off by giving my bf a massage. So he’s lying on his tummy and I use oil to massage him. I get him all relaxed (he’s usually very tense and if I go straight for his butt, his cheeks are all clenched). I take my time and I kiss him all over…really make it a treat.
Then I focus on his ass and I spit on a finger and massage his butt hole. He loves this and I love feeling him relax and giving into my touch. Then I slowly lick him. I do a couple cautionary licks in case there’s any funky flavours or smells (there’s never been any) and I also tease him by doing that.
Then I go in circles…I play with the speed or my licking. After a bit of that, I’ll probe him a bit with my tongue. I do that for a good 15-20 mins and he really likes it which turns me on.’ [Via]
8 Make it enjoyable for yourself too
‘It’s honestly scary the first time or two lol. I think I was just naturally fearful since guys always seem to have nastier bathroom trips (sorry guys) but it’s surprisingly enjoyable. He also shaves it and that made it super easy to get in there.
I always start by giving a blow job/playing with his balls and taint, and then incorporating some fingers in his ass. Then I work my way down there and bite the insides of his thighs etc. I make sure I can get everything as lubricated with spit as possible. Are you familiar with the set up of the male prostate? Look it up, it will really really help!
Also fingering first helped me discover the exact location of the prostate and gauge what motions and methods felt best for my guy. Sometimes we will start out 69ing with me on top so I can get turned on too, then I’ll go down on him while I masturbate. The easiest position I’ve found so far is him lying on his back and me lying either on my stomach down there or on the edge of the bed. you’ll know when it feels good for him! That always encourages me and turns me on more.
If my tongue gets tired, I’ll use lube and fingers and suck him off to finish. Sometimes we will also get out butt plugs or a vibrator to use on him while we’re fucking or I’m giving him oral. There’s a lot of ways you can incorporate toys if that’s something you’re into.’ [Via]
There you have it, cuties. Happy rimming!