You love your family, duh, but there’s something about going on holiday together that brings out your inner child, and throwing a tantrum at this age isn’t cute. Travelling with your family is totally different to travelling with friends or bae, usually involving a lot more arguments and eye rolling. The trick is in your approach. Try these slight adjustments to your holiday routine and you guys will be living your best Brady Bunch lives in no time (I haven’t watched The Brady Bunch but I hope they were a happy family for the sake of this comparison).
Assume different roles
The main reason holidays fall apart is due to people butting heads on what to do, where to go, what to eat etc. Instead of letting the two bossiest members go head-to-head every day while the rest of the family suffer, get practical. Before you head on holiday divide your trip into sections and assign a leader for each section. So on the first day your sister chooses the activity, your mom chooses lunch, your dad is the designated driver, and you decide what’s for dinner. Swap the roles every day so that everyone gets a chance to flex their planning skills.
Everywhere you go make sure you’ve got some snacks with you to avoid people getting hangry, especially when heading into unknown territories where you don’t know where the next corner shop will appear.
Suck it up
It’s like your mother always said: sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do. Accept the fact that for a peaceful holiday sometimes you’re going to do stuff that doesn’t appeal to you at all, like visiting a war museum to appease your grandpa. A bit of unhappiness on your part is a small price to pay to make someone you love happy.
One holiday, one camera
As soon as you’re on safari or in a foreign place everyone’s inner Annie Leibovitz comes out to play. Choose one person a day to be the designated photographer. This way everybody gets a chance to be in photographs and also have days where they get to chill and not worry about documenting everything. At the end of your trip get the most tech savvy member of the family (probably you TBH) to create a big shared folder so that every member of the family gets every photo taken.
Let the slowest person set the pace
It’s frustrating to have to move slowly when you’re a go-getter who’s full of energy, but you need to adjust your expectations based on the slowest member of your group. It’s a lot easier for you to slow down than for Aunt Karen to pick up the pace in her wheelchair. Lowering you expectations will mean less frustration. Just go slowly and enjoy your surroundings.
Don’t go to restaurants
If the place you’re staying at has a kitchen make use of it and cook meals as a family (or take turns to cook if you’ve got Gordon Ramsay-types in your family). Especially if you’re travelling with young children, because nobody wants to be the table with the screaming kids that everyone in the restaurant glares at all night. Eating in also saves money, but if you’re dying for some local cuisine consider getting takeaways and eating them at your AirBnb to get the best of both worlds.
After a full morning and afternoon of exploring, it’s inevitable that everyone gets a little grumpy. Rather than pushing through set aside an hour or two in the afternoon for everyone to take five from each other. The old people can nap, you could take a walk alone and the kids can watch a movie. After some down-time away from the family everyone will be less likely to bite each other’s heads off.
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