Cultural holidays can be tricky. On one hand we want to commemorate, celebrate and honour significant religious, social and historical days but on the other hand, they either pacify us by focusing on an issue for a whole 24 hours or they manage to exclude different lived experiences.
With Mother’s Day around the corner and brands going wild with mommy-friendly marketing, it’s a day to remember our nurturers, caregivers and moms and appreciate them for all they have done for us… Yet we tend to forget that not everyone is able to do this.
There are plenty of people who still have their mothers in their lives, but there are many who don’t. This isn’t to say we should do away with the holiday altogether, but it does mean that the overload of Mom Alert can be really painful for a lot of people.
Is Mother’s Day a tough time for you? We’ve got your back
Some people don’t have the packaged and primed, nuclear-family relationships with their moms. Some moms were never nurturers or caregivers; others have never known what it’s like to have a mother in the ways some of us have; others are estranged from their moms for a wide range of reasons; and others have tragically lost their moms.
To all the folks in mourning who have lost their moms, you’re not alone. We rounded up a list of influencers who show that Mother’s Day can be hard for a lot of people, but it can also be about remembering the moms who are no longer with us.
The pop-star icon lost her mom to breast cancer. She was only five years old at the time.
2 Prince William and Prince Harry
The royal brothers were launched into the spotlight when their mother Princess Diana died in a car accident in 1997. She was famous for her humanity, philanthropy and impact on activism.
‘I still feel, 20 years later about my mother, I still have shock within me… People say shock can’t last that long, but it does. You never get over it. It’s such an unbelievably big moment in your life that it never leaves you, you just learn to deal with it.’ – Prince William
3 50 Cent
The rapper lost his mother when he was eight years old. She died in a fire in their home.
‘Someone put something in her drink and turned the gas on. After that, every time something went wrong, I’d think, “If my mother was here it wouldn’t be like that.”‘
4 Jennifer Hudson
Oscar and Grammy winner Jennifer Hudson’s life changed forever when she lost her mother, brother and nephew to gun violence in 2008.
Jennifer Hudson, who lost her mother, brother and nephew to gun violence, opened the doors of the church today … and there were many who came through them pic.twitter.com/paGJZyehwc
— Jemele Hill (@jemelehill) March 24, 2018
‘It’s frustrating as hell to me to have somebody who ain’t lost nothing try to talk to me about it. I want to say, “Don’t even bother, because you know nothing.” But you never know how much you can get through until you’re going through it.’
The rapper and TV personality recently lost his mother Nomonde Thekisho, an academic and lecturer.
Psalm 8 🙏🏾 pic.twitter.com/jAzEaAiUK0
— ProVerb (@ProVerbMusic) April 25, 2018
The self-proclaimed #QueenOfKwaito lost her mom Gloria Maswanganyi Mafuma last year after battling with her health and being placed on life support for breathing problems.
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