It’s 5pm, and all you want to do is collapse on the couch with a supersize portion of leftover spaghetti, but, instead, you do the right thing and drag yourself off to Pilates. No sooner have you found yourself a position close enough that you can see what you’re supposed to be doing but far enough from the instructor that you can get away with not doing it, and there she is, right in your line of vision – that skinny chick with the perfect bum and a killer rack (what’s with that?), whose life is probably one long episode of fabulousness. It’s enough to make you want to strangle yourself with your shoelace.
But, before you do, hear this: Ms Fabulosity probably has more issues than you could ever imagine. Yes, even more than you. And whatever her life might look like (not nearly as perfect as you imagine, by the way) it’s highly unlikely she’s happier. Why? Because, contrary to what you see and hear pretty much all the time, being skinny, gorgeous and loaded doesn’t cut it in the happiness stakes (read any celeb gossip lately?). Why? Because none of this means anything if you don’t like yourself. And losing five kilos, earning a bigger salary and driving a schmancy car won’t up the self-love stakes, either. But, here’s what might:
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Nothing in this world will boost your self-esteem like achieving your personal goals. They can be big things or small things (graduating cum laude or going running twice a week), but when you work hard and push your personal boundaries wonderful things start to happen. If you allow yourself to have a defeatist attitude and give in to laziness and inertia, you’ll get yourself into a rut of blah which will wreak havoc on your sense of self. Sometimes being amazing means doing things that scare you, but if you don’t, you’ll never know what you’re capable of (a lot). Never sell yourself short. Yes, you’ll encounter obstacles but once you’ve put on your big girl broeks and climbed the metaphorical mountain, you’ll discover your view on the world has changed – and very much for the better. |
