It’s 2am, and you and your BFF have just arrived home after one of the craziest, fun-nest nights of your life. You pull on your PJs and, as you make tea and toast, giggle over the evening’s shenanigans. It’s hard to imagine you’ll ever be anything but tight. But then she gets a job in another town. At first you take turns travelling to spend every weekend together, but after a while this starts happening less and less. You meet a guy, she meets a guy and before you know it you haven’t caught up properly in six months. So, was the friendship not as solid as you thought it was? Not necessarily. You just need to be realistic.
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Relationships are messy and imperfect, and chances are good that she will disappoint, frustrate and anger you at some point. While you don’t have to tolerate bad behaviour, you do have to measure it within the context of your friendship. If it’s mostly good, tell her off and then move on. We all like to believe that we’re practically perfect, but for every annoying thing she’s done, you’ve probably got on her nerves just as badly. If it’s a biggie, talk it out, making sure you stick to the facts. If it’s just a small disagreement, make a decision to let it slide. Sometimes being happy is more important than being right, and life is too short for petty squabbles. |
