How to know the difference between your fear voice and your intuitive voice

‘Learning to act on your intuitive voice and not your fear voice is a skill.’


Our self-help columnist Athena Laz is a psychologist and leading voice on modern spirituality. Her signature course Own Your Power has assisted thousands of women worldwide, helping them to reclaim their ability to feel good. You can see her work here.

Ever felt so disconnected from your own intuition that you scrambled to anything or anyone outside of you to give you the ‘answer’ you were so desperately seeking? I’ve been there more times than I would care to admit, and more often than not most of my clients come to me because they’re in that exact situation.

Learning to act on your intuitive voice and not your fear voice is a skill that requires practice and trust. The more often you chose to trust your inner knowing over your fear the better that you become at making decisions aligned with your highest self. (You know, the version of you that is conscious, wise, spiritually aligned and awake!).

So what exactly is the difference between your intuitive voice and your fear voice?

Your fear voice often sounds like mental chatter and is often fuelled by self-doubt, past difficulties, your inner critic, or future tripping involving worst-case scenarios.

Your fear voice is not associated with strategic thinking and common sense. It’s more like having an inner gremlin who whispers rubbish to you to steer you off course. Often leading you to make decisions based on fear instead of presence.

Your fear voice can also come out to play if you are psychologically replaying out a pattern. In that case, your fear voice is ‘acting on behalf’ of your unconscious (or subconscious) mind in an attempt to keep you safe from a perceived emotional or psychological threat.

Did you pick up that I said perceived threat and not a real threat?

Your fear voice is closely linked to the realm of self-sabotage. Or the experience in which you always land up in the same type of situation even if you are really wanting and trying to experience something new.


For example: if you always land up with partners who treat you poorly or if you almost always just succeed for some unforeseen thing to get in the way. This is self-sabotage and it is fuelled by unconscious patterns and controlled by your fear voice.

A good question to counter this voice (and pattern) is to ask yourself: what if this does work out and what are the practical risks of taking this step? In this case, if it feels familiar – it’s probably not serving you anymore!

Your intuitive voice, on the other hand, arises from a place of serenity and deep inner knowing. Your intuitive voice has nothing to do with logic. Intuition is a form of wisdom that goes beyond logic. It’s visceral knowing that something is either a hell YES or a hell NO.

You can cultivate your intuitive voice with the following practice:

Come to Centre Meditation

Step 1: Switch off your cell-phone and find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed

Step 2: The simplest way to meditate is to sit, with your legs uncrossed and feet planted firmly on the ground.

Step 3: Place your palms facing up and simply relax.

Step 4: Bring awareness to your breath.

Step 5: Breathe in and out (on a count of five).

In other words, as you inhale, focus only on your breath, count for 5 and then exhale. Focusing fully on your exhale for the count of five. On each inhale mentally repeat the following words: I allow my most intuitive self to come to the centre and honour what it has to say. On each exhale repeat the following words: I release all frustration and fear holding me back.

Step 6: As thoughts come up in your mind (they always do!), simply witness them and re-focus your awareness back onto your breath.

Step 7: Try to do this for a minimum of 5 minutes a day. As it becomes more comfortable for you to meditate, simply increase the time that you sit in meditation.

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