Our self-help columnist Athena Laz is a licensed psychologist and the author of ‘You’ve Got This’. She’s here to help you create a life that lights you up! You can see her work here.
Do you have any tools or tips to increase self-esteem?
Yes I do and that is to ditch self-esteem entirely and rather move towards self-acceptance! Self-esteem is based on a rating system. Either you feel worthy or unworthy. Or you have good self-esteem or bad self-esteem. In other words, you are always rating your value and with it up and down your self-esteem goes. For example: if your good self-esteem is based on having a great job and you lose that job – out goes your good sense of self-worth.
‘Self-esteem is built on the labels we give ourselves but labelling in itself is unhelpful’
If you have a strong sense of self, you understand that your value is intrinsic and you never base your sense of self-worth on anything outside of you. Not your looks, not your relationships, not your money.
‘Unconditional self-acceptance means untangling your self-worth from external measures of your value as a person’
You have worth because you exist and cultivating who you are without your labels is a great place to start. You can watch the video below where I share more tips and tools to develop more self-acceptance and feel amazing.
5 Steps to Rocking Self-Acceptance
- Understand that you cannot and shouldn’t judge the WHOLE of who you are by the labels you place onto yourself.
- Recognize global labels for the thinking errors that they are.
- All humans are imperfect and that includes you – so stop beating yourself up about the things that you think you could do better.
- Work on any shame or guilt associated with the aspects of yourself that you feel are not good enough.
- Practice self-care.
You can follow Athena on Instagram here and see more of her work at Athenalaz.com. You can also receive her free audio course, designed to help you develop positive self-talk. If you have a question for Athena e-mail her here.
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