The day your significant other proposes to you has the potential to be the best day of your life. It’s the time when your partner has the chance to show you how well they know you and how much they care. But … what happens when the person who proposes gets brutally rejected? These people took to Reddit to share their rejection stories. Some of these burn — but, fortunately, others have a happy ending.
1. A dog is a man’s best friend … right? “She said no, I got a dog and a case of beer and lived happily ever after.” —Doublej03
2. Sometimes, you both get a happily ever after. “I proposed after three-ish years of dating and one year of living together, and she said no. I was offering her my great-grandparent’s wedding ring. That was Friday night. By Sunday night, after a trip to her parents, she came back and told me that she was gay. That was 22 years ago.
“Since then I have been married for 16 years to the next woman I dated. My wife has the wedding ring that I offered to my ex. The gay girlfriend has been with her partner for nearly 22 years. I have a daughter, and they have a girl and a boy. I love them and they are just the best people ever. This is a bullet we both dodged.” —prohaska
3. That one line no one wants to hear, like, ever. “I wasn’t denied during a proposal, but 99% sure she realised I was going to propose and bailed before I had the chance. Eight years and change together, everything seemed totally fine, we talked about a future together plenty of times, engagement rings, jobs, housing, kids, etc. The job and housing parts were going forward, and she had shown me rings and talked weddings plenty, so it felt like it was time to finally do that. I bought a ring, tried planning some neat trips to take her on for an awesome proposal, they kept not happening, finally decided I was just going to do it around New Year’s, but right before that, she bailed. Timing was just so perfect for her not to have figured it out.
“Never really got an explanation, just the general, ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you.’
“One of those kind of generic statements that you hate to get, especially after so long, but at the same time I’m sure there was plenty of legitimacy to it. We met when we were young and we grew into different people. People change a lot between the mid-teens and mid-20s.
“We tried to maintain a friendship for a while after that but it was super hard for me because I was still totally into her. I had to basically drop off the map entirely for a year or so because we shared the same social circle, and I just got so incredibly uncomfortable around her. No hard feelings, I guess, at the end of the day, it sucked, but it wasn’t like something awful happened between us. Eventually, we just stopped talking. She drifted to a new social group, I got back in mine, life goes on. Definitely not where I expected to be at this point in my life though.” —madshw
4. Well, that explains it. “She said no and then confessed that she had been sleeping with my brother.” —HeavyRemorses
5. All you have to do is wait a couple of decades, then try again. “In 1988, I asked the love of my life to marry me. She said no. In a funk, I left town and went on with my life. Married another girl, had a son, years went by. My marriage was pretty bad, so after 16 years, we divorced.
“My friends convinced me to join Facebook; they said it would help meet girls and stuff. A few months into FB, I get a [private message] from the past. The love of my life had also married, had kids, and divorced. This is 25 years after my proposal and her rejection. There’s a lot more to the story, but six months after that first PM on FB, we were married, and I was happy for the first time in decades. We are still going strong, with our sixth anniversary coming up in a few weeks.” —NAsentia
6. You’ll feel secondhand embarrassment just reading this. “Not sure if this counts as a denied proposal … I think it is. My boyfriend and I have been together for, like, five-ish years or so, so I was trying to kind of hint that I want to be engaged. We had talked about getting married before, and we were both on board. We had both lived together since we very first started dating.
“So I told him I need to talk to him about something. I made a nice dinner and asked him, ‘Will you marry me?’ and he said, ‘Oh of course I want to marry you, you know that.’ I was unsure of his answer, so I asked, ‘OK, so we are gonna get married? Like we are engaged?’ and he said, “I mean, some day, yes.’
“I lost sleep over it. I was so embarrassed, and he wasn’t fazed. Come to find out he had no idea it was a proposal. So we sat down and talked about becoming engaged, and then boom! Engaged. Picked a date that night and started announcing to family a couple days after.”—ancientpsychicpug
7. When one door closes, another one opens. “We had been together on and off for five years. She kept coming back and telling me she couldn’t live without me, then get sick of my shit and drop me for a few months at a time. (And make no mistake, I was a no-esteem whiner back then).
“She knew I am the marrying type, but she could not commit. Finally, after I had moved into my own apartment away from roommates, she asked to move in. I basically countered with a marriage proposal, knowing in the back of my head she would likely say no. That’s what happened, and we never got back together. Eighteen months later, I met the woman of my dreams and now we have been happily married for over 15 years. Worked out just fine, thanks :)” —Toothygrin1231
8. If at first you don’t succeed… “I asked her twice, over the course of five years. She said no twice, so I told her I wouldn’t ask again. Five years later, she proposed to me in a hotel called 42 (I’m a huge Hitchhiker’s Guide fan) using an iPod (I’m a huge gadget fan). I said yes. Married for 12 years now.” —joe_archer
9. She could sense it coming. “Dated this girl off and on for 12 years. Most recently, we had been together six years. We’re on a trip to the Philippines and we’re swimming in this beautiful lagoon. I decide it’s the perfect setting to propose. I begin with ‘Hey, baby,’ and she must have heard it in my voice because she turned around and said, ‘Doooon’t do it.’ Took the wind out of my sail real quick. She eventually said yes a few months later in Australia.”—The_Right_Reverend
(Answers have been lightly edited for spelling and grammar.)
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com.
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