Hook-ups so wild they make you wish you had soundproof walls are great fun, but you probably sometimes crave the kind of sex that enhances the emotional and mental closeness between you and your partner. And, although it seems like a no-brainer that intimacy is important, unfortunately, it’s all too often missing in action.
‘People tend to become so focused on the physical mechanics involved in reaching orgasm that they tune out their partner in the process,’ says sex therapist, Joy Davidson, author of Fearless Sex (Quiver). As a result, you may end up feeling disconnected. So, how do you boost the romance? ‘The key to truly sensual sex is engaging with each other at every stage of the action so you feel like you’re a single unit, rather than two separate entities,’ Davidson explains. Here’s how to get there:
Kissing sometimes ends up falling by the wayside during sex because you’re mostly concentrating on below-the-belt sensations. However, ‘A passionate kiss mid-intercourse makes the experience sexier,’ Britton says.
‘Not only are you locked together physically, but you’re also face-to-face and 100% engaged with the other person.’ Alternate between deep kisses, running the tip of your tongue along his lips, and pulling his lips toward you with a sucking motion.