Dating apps can be like dating Russian roulette. You might meet your future husband, or you might meet someone who ignores you the entire date. Like they say, sometimes you’ve got to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince. Five people shared their dating app horror stories with us.
1 ‘So I agreed to go on an OkCupid date with this guy I’d been messaging. We decided on this Mexican food place near my apartment. It’s one of my favourites and I go all of the time. It’s chill and a good place for drinks, too; a perfect casual first date spot. So I met this guy on a Friday night, and the place was crowded, but like, normal Friday night crowded. He freaked out and was super rude to the hostess. He said that there was no good table and that we need to go somewhere else. He told me that he knew another Mexican place nearby that we should try instead. So we got in a cab and drove about five minutes to another restaurant. However, when we got there, he read the menu and decided that this one was too expensive. I was starting to realise what an asshole he is at that point. But he wanted to try another spot. We went to a third Mexican restaurant. This one was too small for him. So he finally suggested that we should just go back to the restaurant that we started at. I went back there with him for one drink, so it wasn’t totally awkward, but dipped after one margarita and a few tortilla chips because he’d already revealed his true colours and they were not pretty.’ — Cali, 27
2 ‘I travel internationally for work and have gone on a few dates with women that I didn’t realise were non-English speakers. Once when I was in London, I went on a date with a Russian woman who was studying abroad. We went to a concert, and she didn’t talk the whole time. I didn’t either, because I don’t speak Russian. She just smoked cigarettes and drank whiskey. We went out afterward with friends and then she ghosted on me. Not exactly a horror story, but awkward as f*ck.’ —Tyler, 32
3 ‘I met a guy from Tinder for drinks. He seemed hot and cool and normal when we were chatting over text. He was not as hot in person at all, but it wasn’t a deal breaker. He seemed pretty socially awkward. So we had our first drink and were just making light conversation. By then I already knew that there was no chemistry and was ready to call it a night. But it became so much worse than simple bad chemistry. After he finished his drink, I guess the alcohol made him loosen up, because all of a sudden he blurted out, “Do you want kids?” I was like…. “Uh, maybe at some point…” but felt so uncomfortable, because who asks that on a first date? And I assumed that he was asking because I was a little bit older than him and maybe he was thinking about the stereotype of women hitting 30 and becoming baby-crazy. But that wasn’t why he was asking. Then he said, “I’m asking because before this goes any further, I should tell you that I shouldn’t have children. I have a history of violence, and many of my family members are in jail, and it doesn’t feel responsible for me to procreate.” Literally, after one drink together on the first date, he was confessing all of this to me. I texted my friend to call and say there was an emergency, literally like out of Sex and the City, and she came and rescued me.’ — Lilith, 31
4 ‘This guy came over [to my home]. He was younger than I am. I’m 23, he was 20. [We met on] Grindr, so we got down to business right away. The whole time, he was making intense eye contact with me, and it was too intense for a one-night encounter. When we finished, we were all sticky (for obvious reasons), so we headed to the shower. He asked to borrow my shower cap, and then in the shower, he confessed he loved me. He was wearing a shower cap, and it was actually really funny. But like, he then said he seriously loved me and wanted to be boyfriends.
I said, “Oh. Thank you. I think we should get to know one another first”. I was thinking to myself; this man is crazy, I just need him to leave and will never talk to him again. But then he wouldn’t leave. He came back and got dressed. I said some bullshit about needing to wake up early tomorrow. He said “It’s okay, I’ll stay the night and leave when you’re up.” I then tried to come up with various reasons why he couldn’t stay. And he kept on being like “It’s okay”. Then I had to tell him: You have to go. And he kept saying “But you love me right?” It was so awkward and weird, and I had no idea what to say, so I think I said I loved him so he would leave. After, he’d text me all the time and I had to tell him that I don’t think it was going anywhere. He then proceeded to call and FaceTime and text me repeatedly, and I never answered cause I had no idea what the hell to do.’ — Fin, 25
5 ‘Once I matched with someone I used to work with. I had always had a work crush on him, but he had a very serious girlfriend, so I never acted on it. But I hadn’t seen him in a few years, and we matched, and he confessed that he always had a crush on me too. I was excited that he was single and we could finally go out. He was being very sketchy about meeting up. He said no to the idea of dinner, and wanted to have drinks in a weird neighbourhood that was far away from both of us. He also kept suggesting that we meet at like, 11 at night. I should have known, but I was so turned on to be texting with him that I kept the date. You know how this ends. Ugh, I’m so mad. We went out to this weird bar, got wasted, and he came over, and we had sex. The next day I was stalking his Facebook, and there was a photo of him with who I thought was his ex-girlfriend posted two days ago. They never broke up. He just cheats on her. I called him out on it, and he tried to pretend that they had an open relationship, so I was like “Cool, so you won’t mind if I friend her then?” and he freaked out. I deleted Tinder for so long after that, I was convinced that all men on there secretly had a girlfriend.’ — Anna, 26
These confessions have been lightly edited for length and clarity.
This post was originally seen on cosmopolitan.com.
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