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4 Foolproof Tips for a Better Orgasm

Easy does it.

Anyone who’s ever had an orgasm knows that it’s so worth the effort. And, no matter the relationship, you’re entitled to it. Here’s how to create the right circumstances to reach your best O.

Relax! Most of us can’t reach orgasm anytime, anywhere, under any conditions. We have to be somewhat detached from the stresses of the day. Create your own O-environment. Whatever relaxes you – candles, wine, a bath – do it. You need to be in an atmosphere that turns you on. When you’re in the right headspace, your orgasm is around the corner.

Don’t compare the time it takes you to come to the time it takes him. It sucks, but during sex more time is often spent on penetration than clitoral stimulation – and we all know penetration works for him better than it works for us. Really get in on the foreplay, and enjoy it. Don’t ever worry about how long you’re taking, because he certainly doesn’t.

Be in the moment. When reaching your O feels like it’s taking forever, it’s normal for the mind to start drifting. You could easily go from thinking, ‘This feels sooooo amazing’ to ‘What am I making for supper tomorrow?’ The best way to make sure you get there – fast – is to keep your head in the moment. Focus on the sensations you’re experiencing and how good it feels instead of where you and the work wife should go for lunch tomorrow. You’ll be even more turned on when you’re fully in the experience. There’s no question you’ll get there faster.

Don’t make an orgasm the goal. Yes, it’s a big part of why we have sex – but it’s certainly not the only part. You’re having sex to feel closer to your partner and to be outside of your own head for a while. When you’re not solely focused on the goal of an orgasm (and stressing out about how long it’s taking), you’re free to enjoy the sensations you’re experiencing. That alone creates the ideal environment for spectacular sex.

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