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How To Say No pg5

Always doing stuff you don’t want to because you can’t say no? Here, help for perpetual pleasers.

Nobody wants to disappoint or appear unhelpful, but if you never master the art of the negative you’re going to find yourself spending a whole lot of time and energy doing stuff you don’t want to do. And, really, life is too short. Here are some polite ways of saying ‘Not on your nelly!’

This simple negative is the hardest of the lot because you probably feel compelled to give a reason that gets you off the hook, but sometimes – especially with people who are inclined to override your excuses – it’s the most effective way of turning them down. Don’t think too much about it, and don’t try to fill in the silence with mumbled excuses. Say the words, and then keep quiet. You’ll be amazed at how effective this simple assertion can be.

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