‘Selfish’ is a word with such negative connotations but to make it through life without totally losing it you absolutely have to look out for yourself every once in a while. It doesn’t mean you’re not a giver. Here are the nine times it’s okay – no, necessary – to put yourself first.
1. When you need to be alone. Sometimes you just don’t feel like being available but you’ll go out of your way to be there for everyone anyway. You deserve to recharge and have some time for yourself. Take it.
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2. In bed. Your orgasm is as important. Get it.
3. When you’re single. Enjoy it – this is the only time in your life you get to live by your own schedule. There’s nobody you’re expected to ‘put first’. Have as much fun as you want!
4. When it’s time to end a relationship. Whether it’s breaking up with your boyfriend or ending a toxic friendship, you owe it to yourself not to put up with people who put you in a negative headspace.
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5. When it comes to your standards. You shouldn’t be expected to compromise what you know you want (as long as your requirements aren’t totally unreasonable).
6. When you need to say ‘no’. How many times have you agreed to something you didn’t really want just to keep the peace or make someone else happy? It’s not your job to make other people’s lives easier but it’s definitely your job to improve your own.
7. When your body is asking for things. You’re human. You’re going to get exhausted, hungry and sick. Listen to your body when it’s telling you to slow down, even if it means letting other people down in the process.
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8. When you have personal priorities. Some things are important just for you, and they need to be taken care of as much as favours for other people. Your priorities should be at the top of your list.
9. When someone wants to treat you. Sometimes we feel like it’s ‘unfair’ to accept favours or be taken care of – it’s really not. It’s okay to allow someone to do something for you – after all, they’re doing it because they want to. So sit back and enjoy.
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