How often do you catch yourself saying sorry? It’s the go-to phrase whenever we do something we feel is ‘wrong’. But how much of what we feel bad for is actually worthy of an apology? Here are the things in your life you definitely shouldn’t be apologising for.
1. The way you feel
Being able to express your feelings is what makes you you, and you feel the way you do for a reason. If anybody tries to make it seem like what you’re feeling is wrong, let them go ahead – but never say sorry for it.
2. Your past
What’s done is done, so there’s no point worrying about it now. We’ve all done things we regret, and we paid the price for it back then. Your past in no way defines your present or your future, so what are you apologising for?
3. The things that make you laugh
Who cares if your sense of humour is a little twisted? It’s one of the things that makes you unique. We all get excited by different things, and if the poop emoji does it for you, COOL! Laugh as much as you can. Life is kind of hilarious.
4. Anything to do with the way you look
Not only is it totally out of your control, but you’re absolutely lovely just as you are. Apologising for something like your hair or your sense of style or your weight… it’s just ridiculous. Your body is beautiful. Honour it.
Let it out, and don’t apologise for it. Too many girls feel like when they’re crying, they’re doing something wrong. It’s not weak. Everybody does it. Bring on the waterworks if they want to be brought.
6. Disagreeing with someone
If you’re not seeing eye to eye with someone, drop the ‘I’m sorry, but…’ and just express your differing opinion. You shouldn’t have to feel bad for it; our minds all operate differently. It’s what makes conversations fun.
7. Saying no
Don’t apologise for your personal boundaries, ever. You’ll never be able to please everyone, and that is not a problem at all. Say no when you feel it’s warranted, and move swiftly on.
8. Letting go of toxic relationships
Breaking up with a friend can be traumatic, and when it happens it’s easy for you to feel like a really terrible person. Prioritising your happiness is something you should be doing. If someone’s dragging you down, why should you apologise?
10. Putting yourself first
Contrary to popular belief, this doesn’t make you selfish. It just means that you can acknowledge that if you’re not happy, you can’t make anyone else happy. You’ve got to look out for yourself, and not feel guilty about it.
11. Your personal beliefs
These days a moral code can be treated like something to be frowned upon, but don’t let that stop you from sticking to yours. If people disagree with your beliefs, allow them that right – you just shouldn’t feel the need to say sorry for it.
12. Having ‘high standards’
What exactly is wrong with feeling you deserve great things? Having ‘high standards’ is spoken of like a problematic characteristic, when in fact it’s fantastic. It means you have good self-esteem and you’re not going to settle. More power to you!
13. Someone else
Don’t ever apologise on behalf of someone else. We should all be fighting our own battles, and you’re not the go-between for someone else who’s done something wrong.