It’s usually not the major blow-ups that ruin relationships. But these five things can slowly pull you apart.
Co-habiting: You’d think that moving in together would make you a tighter couple. But, since you no longer have to put any effort into getting together, you can easily become lazy and start taking each other for granted.
A Too-Busy Social Schedule: It’s great to get out of the house and see friends. After all, you don’t want to become totally dependent on each other. But if all your downtime includes being with other people, you aren’t building in important time to chill – and bond – as a twosome.
Criticising – Even Mildy: The better you know someone, the more you notice their flaws… and the more comfortable you feel pointing them out. Since nit-picking creates distance, try to make a concerted effort to stay positive, and be sure to compliment your guy when he does something that you appreciate.
A Desert in the Bedroom: The weird thing about sex is that the more you do it, the more you want to. All couples go through a dry patch now and again, but it’s not good for your relationship. Even if you’d rather eat Nik Naks and watch Idols, force yourself to jump his bones. You’ll be glad you did.
Killing the Mystery: We know you’re real and everything, but farting loudly and cutting your toenails in his company just isn’t sexy. He might be your best friend, but he’s not your brother. Of course you should relax in your own home, but reserving some things for when he’s not around will go a long way towards keeping the spark alive.