It's Time To Kick Butt

When it comes to getting what you want you have to be strategic - especially when you're faced with a clueless individual who is bitchy, annoying, or way too pushy for her own good. In other words, you can't sit back and keep your lips zipped, wondering if a fight is worth it. That said, knowing exactly which situations warrant going in for the kill (and working up the nerve to do it) isn't always easy. So we've mapped it out for you. Here are the five types of people you have full permission to treat to a swift kick in the pants... plus the clever plan of attack you should follow.

Clueless Person #1: The Nosy Friend Who Keeps Trying To Set You Up	Whether she's orchestrating unwanted blind dates or secretly signing you up for www.ineedaman.com, the well-meaning actions of this romantic meddler are tough to take. As irritating as this busybody is, she probably thinks that playing matchmaker is part of being a good friend. To get her to back away, explain that her actions are threatening your friendship. 'Next time she hints about some cute new bachelor in her office, cut in with, "Listen, when you offer to set me up like that, I wonder if you feel sorry for me not having a man in my life, which causes me to think twice about spending time with you,"' says Susan Scott, author of Fierce Conversations (Penguin Putnam Inc). 'Then add "I know you're just trying to help, but I'm fine, so stop worrying about my single status."' Yip, she might feel slighted and your friendship could take a hit. But at least you'll have nipped her condescension in the bud.
Clueless Person #2: That Guy You're Not Interested In Who Keeps Calling
Clueless Person #3: Your Friend Who Is Chronically Late For Everything
Clueless Person #4: Your New Man Who Skimps On Pleasing You In Bed
Clueless Person #5: The Person In Your Circle Who Trashes a Mutual Friend

Author: Colleen Rush