At some point, we've all gotten lucky in dreamland. Whether your racy reverie is red-hot (bedding Josh Hartnett) or simply strange (getting it on with the weird guy in accounting), there's a reason why it popped into your head. 'Sexual dreams reveal your desires and anxieties,' says Dr Gillian Holloway, author of
Erotic Dreams. 'Your subconscious uses these raw, lustful situations to sort out emotions you may not be confronting in waking life.' Maybe you already know dreams serve as a portal to your psyche, but you might not realise how obscure their implications can be. In fact, your dirtiest scenes often aren't about sex at all. Oh, and those 'innocent' imaginings where you're flying or brushing your hair? They're loaded with sexual meaning. While everyone's nocturnal fantasies and day-to-day issues vary, we asked dream experts to shed light on the most common sexual dreams.
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Getting Passionate With an Unlikely Partner
A dream where you're scorching the sheets with your boss or best friend? Yikes. Although you may assume this means you harbour secret lustful feelings, the actual implications are generally tame. 'You probably admire a quality that person possesses and want to develop it within yourself,' explains Dr Patricia Garfield, author of Creative Dreaming. Maybe you admire your boss's success or wish you had your friend's confidence. On lucky nights, a Hollywood hottie might make a guest appearance. While celeb sex dreams could just be something your brain has cooked up for fun, there's probably more to it. 'To singles, it's a reminder that amazing prospects are out there, and it also clues you in to the kind of man you want,' says Garfield. If you're already part of a couple, it may point to a yearning for a trait your man lacks or, if you're blissfully content, will affirm that your man is awesome.
No Place To Get Busy
You're on a hunt for a place to have sex with your man, but problems arise that make it impossible. 'This suggests a loss of intimacy between you and him,' explains Holloway. 'Women tend to have this dream before or after a breakup.' Although you've struggled to make it work, something - like mismatched goals - has prevented it. However, if you and your man are happily coupled, the dream may indicate that there's an obstacle you're trying to overcome such as a long-distance issue or even just that you're unsure of what the future holds.
Having Sex For All To See
Right in the middle of a romp, you suddenly realise you're on stage or in a room full of people, and everyone is watching you. 'If the crowd makes you self-conscious, you could be worried that people are gossiping about your relationship,' says Holloway. Think about it: Are you afraid your friends don't like him? Did you start dating while he was still with someone else? On the other hand, should being in the spotlight feel deliciously naughty, it means you have a hankering to flaunt your sizzling sex life to the world.
Cheating On Your Man
It's pretty unsettling to imagine doing the deed behind your boy's back. 'You usually dream of sleeping with someone else soon after taking a major relationship step, like getting engaged,' says Holloway. 'Any uneasiness about making such a huge life change can manifest in your dreams.' It doesn't mean you have regrets; you're just experiencing normal concerns, like that you're missing out on other potential mates or you'll one day discover he's not right for you. On the flip side: 'If your man is the unfaithful one, ask yourself if you're resenting him for some reason,' suggests Holloway. 'This dream can expose feelings of emotional abandonment, like maybe he's working a lot or you're more serious about your bond than he is.' |
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