What He's Feeling

Knowing how your guy feels – physically and emotionally – during the four stages of arousal is a great way to learn how to drive him wild. So we went and found out all you need to know.

STAGE 1: The Tease	His Brain Guys know that if they want a mind-blowing finale, they have to go the distance. ‘So he’s easing up a little from that wild, animal frenzy – he’s focused on enjoying sex but not too much,’ says Farrell. There’s a pause effect happening inside his head: ‘Switching gears mentally – possibly thinking of a nonsexual image – lets him hold back,’ explains Farrell. ‘But as he talks himself down to last longer, he’ll sometimes have trouble getting back up to speed.’ At this point, he may need to delve into a fantasy to reignite his arousal and as a result you may feel as though he’s zoned out. His Body ‘For men, variety is important during this phase,’ says Kerner. ‘Physically, his pleasure is completely concentrated around his lower back, butt and groin.’ And because he’s being challenged physically every step of the way to hold back from climaxing, he craves a series of different frictions, rhythms and sensations. ‘By alternating positions and speed, you drive his excitement but still allow him to remain in control,’ says Kerner. Work It To The Max Help him ride out the roller coaster. If you sense your guy’s momentum is lagging, whip out some dirty talk. Tell him how hot you feel with him inside you and throw out some sexy requests such as ‘Thrust harder’ or ‘Hold me tighter’. Create the combination of sensations he craves. Try these three positions: doggy style, which enables him to thrust deeply; straddling him so you can combine shallow strokes with deep, grinding gyrations; and missionary, which creates the fast friction he needs towards the end. But don’t lose him too soon. ‘Pay attention to his body and slow down when he reaches overdrive,’ says Kerner. The longer you keep him in this holding pattern, the more pleasurable the explosion will be for him – and the more likely you are to maximise your pleasure, too.
STAGE 2: The Build-Up
STAGE 3: The Stamina Stretch
STAGE 4: The Climax

Author: Dan Kraus