What He's Feeling

Knowing how your guy feels – physically and emotionally – during the four stages of arousal is a great way to learn how to drive him wild. So we went and found out all you need to know.

STAGE 1: The Tease	His Brain He’s being pulled in two different directions. He knows he should keep it slow and sensual to please you but he’s desperate to devour you whole. ‘During this stage, guys oscillate between feelings of tenderness and raw animal instinct,’ says Kerner. ‘They will often struggle to keep their focus on the woman because their physical cravings take over.’ His Body There are physical changes taking place – he responds to more intense touches because his pain threshold is increasing, his breathing quickens and he’s fully erect. ‘The more turned on he becomes, the more he craves release,’ explains Kerner. ‘And it’s during this stage of arousal that a man is desperate for sex, because that’s what will really drive his pleasure forwards.’ Work It To The Max Manage his changing needs. Show him that you feel the difference in intensity too. ‘Get a little rough with him. You almost have to act as lion tamer, allowing his passion to be both contained and provoked,’ says Dr Warren Farrell, author of Why Men Are The Way They Are (Harper Collins). For example, pin his hands above his head and kiss him hard or clamp your thighs around his torso, letting just the tip of his penis enter you. Pay attention to his shoulder blades, spine and butt. Before you let him enter you, lightly scratch your nails over these areas. ‘The nerves near his spine and waist are directly connected to his groin, so stimulating them has a tantalising ripple effect,’ says Kerner. Then flick his frenulum (the tiny knob of flesh on the underside of his penis head) with the flat of your tongue. ‘Sending that shock through his system just before he enters you will trigger a chain reaction of pleasure,’ says Kerner.
STAGE 2: The Build-Up
STAGE 3: The Stamina Stretch
STAGE 4: The Climax

Author: Dan Kraus