What He's Feeling

Knowing how your guy feels – physically and emotionally – during the four stages of arousal is a great way to learn how to drive him wild. So we went and found out all you need to know.

STAGE 1: The Tease	His Brain ‘A man’s desire can be triggered by almost anything – a subtle stroke, a provocative image or the sound of a woman’s voice at a certain pitch,’ explains Dr Ian Kerner, author of He Comes Next (Harper Collins). But, interestingly, the first question that runs through his head when he feels that initial sexual stirring is, ‘Is it okay to raise the mast?’ ‘No guy wants to get an erection at an inappropriate time,’ says Kerner. ‘This push-pull state of wanting to go with his desire and possibly needing to restrain it fuels his excitement.’ His Body As soon as your man’s mind switches over to sex, his body begins to prickle with anticipation. ‘His temperature starts to rise and chemical messengers released into his bloodstream make his skin supersensitive,’ explains Dr Susan Kellogg, director of sexual medicine at the Pelvic and Sexual Health institute of Philadelphia in the US. Every impulse in his body is focused on his sexual gratification to come.... Work It To The Max Tease him like crazy. ‘He’s at a stage when he’s half letting himself go and half holding back, so make him lose control,’ says Kerner. ‘The key is to use teasing moves that will make him ache for you.’ So confess to a dirty dream you had about him or touch him in a sexual way – but in a nonsexual setting. Keep it light. Right now, the tiniest movements feel massive, which is why you should keep your touches soft and unexpected. ‘Take advantage of his physically on-edge state by keeping him guessing where your lips, nips and strokes will hit next,’ says US sex expert Dr Ava Cadell. Run your nails down his torso, graze your lips across his collarbone or lightly tap his butt.
STAGE 2: The Build-Up
STAGE 3: The Stamina Stretch
STAGE 4: The Climax

Author: Dan Kraus