Secrets Of Sexual Attraction

Ever wonder why some guys bring on butterflies, while others – even cute ones – leave you cold? Or why, out of nowhere, you develop a crush on a platonic guy friend? The forces that rule your attractions are not as random as you might think.

While there’s no magical formula to explain why we fall for the people we do, Helen Fisher, author of Why We Love (Holt McDougal), says, ‘There are several levels on which people connect, from the sociological to psychological. Childhood experiences and biological makeup also play a role in who you’re drawn to.’

Read on for a closer look at the mysterious ways your personal love magnet dictates who you should fall for.

Understanding Instant Attraction	We’ve been programmed to like certain physical qualities (broad shoulders, facial symmetry), because they mean good genes. But other preferences can be subjective: some girls lust over lanky guys; others melt over ripped surfer types. And the reason for your choice could all come down to that guy you pined for in Grade Eight. But what’s a silly crush got to do with your type now, you ask? ‘In part, our personal types come from who we were attracted to when we first had sexual feelings,’ says Morley Glicken, author of Ending the Sex Wars (iUniverse.com). Another theory is that most of us are seeking a man who’s like us. ‘People gravitate toward similar partners, in terms of ethnicity, socioeconomics, education level and attractiveness,’ says Fisher.
Why Butterflies Increase Intimacy
Your Parents’ Influence
The Power of Scents
The Science of Slow-Burning Love

Author: Laura Gilbert