Cosmoplitan
  • Connect with Cosmo

FASHION OVERVIEW

SAVE AND SHARE


Twitter Facebook
Gallo Images/Thinkstock Images

Secret Stuff Guys Know About Sex

You wouldn't want to be a guy - it would mean talking to your friends in monosyllables, having feet that smell like French onion soup, and looking at women with big boobs. But just because we'd balk at trading places with guys doesn't mean they have nothing to teach us. For starters: 'Men tend to act on their instincts more, especially when it comes to sex,' says Dr Ian Kerner, author of Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man (William Morrow). 'They do what feels good without over-thinking it.' Adopting that kind of male mentality in the bedroom leads to a long list of perks, including a higher libido and climaxing more often. In the name of sexual superiority, er, we mean equality, we asked experts to fill us in on exactly what a girl should steal from a guy's MO.

The average guy could spend the day inhaling chicken wings and still want sex when he gets home. But if women eat too much - or are a little bloated or pimply or feel crappy for any other reason - they often shut down their sex drive. The reason? 'Females have this notion that they don't deserve sex unless they look and feel absolutely perfect, but that's total nonsense,' says Cynthia Gentry, author of What Men Really Want in Bed (Quiver). Your guy often picks up on your feeling like you 'shouldn't' have sex and is less inclined to ask for it, which only reinforces your thinking that you're not doable. The result is a lot less sex for everyone involved. The truth is, once your clothes come off, this is the extent of what a guy is thinking: 'Boobs!' In other words, he's not noticing that you have a zit or haven't washed your hair. So instead of closing yourself off, think like a guy and go for it anyway. A quick way to get out of your own head: 'Get him hard - literally. Reach over and touch his penis to let him know you want sex,' says Dr Patricia Taylor, author of Expanded Orgasm: Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lover's Every Touch (Sourcebooks Casablanca). 'When you see how aroused he gets, you'll realise there's no point in worrying about all that other stuff.'



Author: Bethany Heitman
LATEST ARTICLES
Sex Stories
Oral Sex: How It REALLY Went Down

Let's not lie to each other because we've all experienced it. Read More

Sex Stories
4 Times Sex Ruined Your Life

Take a look at the 4 times sex might have ruined your life! Read More

Sex Stories
Sex: Stuff nobody talks about

We've answered plenty of, um, 'sensitive' sex questions in our time. We're not going to stop now. Gird your loins, girls! Read More

Sex Stories
The Straight Man Strikes Again

Tumblr gives us a friendly reminder of just how sexually aggressive guys can be. Read More

FUN FEARLESS COMMENTS

Mbalinotie188

Im a very loving person, who likes meeting new people, i am down on earth n respect others, i am...

BubbleO

. There are 3 things in life you cannot recover, the word after it is said, the moment after its...

mballym

Its important to be honest about ur relationship. each couple's relationship is unique. The way way...

Angelface183

Iam fun, Iam wild I say what i want when i want Iam a party freak my baby girl is my no 1. Iam fun...

to

Andrew Garfield

Age
30
Home Town
Surrey, United Kingdom
Hair
Brunette
Eyes
Brown
Status
In the cutest relationship ever with Emma Stone
Star Sign
Leo
Passions
Acting, business and design
Fudge Urban Iced Coconut Cocktail Hairspray

This hairspray is the best excuse to have your hair smelling like yummy coconut.

READ MORE
PROMOTIONS