Why He Does It: Every woman has her own preferences, and he may have gotten used to doing it the way his previous girlfriend liked it. Or maybe no one's ever given him feedback so he figures he's doing okay.

Frisky Fix: If he's giving you oral, tell him in a sexy whisper what you want. If he's pleasuring you manually, gently put your hand over his, and guide it at the pace and pressure you desire. Avoid such phrases as 'Don't do it that way,' which will sound like a complaint and make him feel like a bad lover.