Share Synchronised Vibrations

You may have some kind of battery-operated friend that you reserve for frisky moments alone, but sharing your toy with your guy boosts the fun quotient for both of you. Most likely, your man has never felt the electrifying pulses of a pleasure toy, so handle his member with care. 'Putting your vibrator directly on his penis might be a bit too intense for him,' says sex expert, Dr Laura Berman. 'Instead, try experimenting on his perineum area, another spot rich with nerve endings but not quite as sensitive.'

To begin, rub his shaft from head to base. When you're sure he's revved up, turn your vibrator on low and slide it just behind his testicles, pushing firmly into his perineum. If you think he can handle it, increase the speed of the vibrator as you increase the momentum of your hand sliding up and down his shaft. Just be aware that this kind of pulsation may also be too powerful to put directly on his scrotum, says Dr Jennifer R Berman, director of the Female Sexual Medicine Centre at University of California in Los Angeles, so muffle the intensity by wrapping the vibrator with a sheet or your undies to soften the vibrations. Or press it against your vulva while he's thrusting from behind so he'll feel the tremors through your body. Hint: For his sake, don't use a threatening phallus dildo; a small, egg-shaped vibrator works best.

Author: Julie Gaynor