Dating and Relating

Oh, we all know the pain. There you are having a pleasant relationship, when bang! Out he comes with a shattering truth. Gwen Stefani knows what we’re talking about. Her husband Gavin Rossdale revealed he had a teenage daughter nine years into their relationship. Her options: blow a fuse and show him the door, or work through it to keep her relationship going. All credit to her for going with the second option. Work out what you’d do with our guide to bombshell management.

The ‘I Can Deal With This’ Bombshell	This bombshell lands in the ultimate grey area. It’s severe enough to knock you to the core – maybe he’s flat broke or has a criminal record – but not bad enough to make you want to end the relationship. ‘Where the relationship is good, but the bombshell is really bad, it can be confusing as hell because you’re torn,’ says Thurnauer. It might help to take a mini break from each other, and give yourself time to think things through. ‘How we react at first can be different to how we feel once the shock has passed,’ Alberts says. Once you’ve calmed down, you need to gauge where he is. Has he taken steps to deal with the issue, and is he willing to work on it? You also have to do some soul-searching and consider what the long-term implications are for you. How will it affect your day-to-day life? And bottom line, will you be happier with or without him?
The ‘I Need More Info’ Bombshell
The ‘Dazed and Confused’ Bombshell
The ‘Total Deal-Breaker’ Bombshell

Author: Freya Williams