Skip your obvious probes, and instead ask covert questions that will tell you a lot.
Don't Ask This: 'Are you even listening to me?'
Instead, Say This: 'Let's see you do an impression of me.'
What You'll Learn: Good imitators are good observers. So if he mimics you well, he pays attention to you.
Don't Ask This: 'Do you love me?'
Instead, Say This: 'Mind if I drive your car?'
What You'll Learn: The more he cares, the more he'll share the things he loves - from wheels to family.
Don't Ask This: 'Do you think that girl is pretty?'
Instead, Say This: 'Oh my word, is that Scarlett Johansson?'
What You'll Learn: If he was checking her out, he'll unwittingly reveal what he thinks: 'Not with
that ass!'
Don't Ask This: 'Where do you see this going in the long term?'
Instead, Say This: 'What would you do if you won R100 million?'
What You'll Learn: He'll naturally think of people he'd spend the money on or with. Are you on his list?
Don't Ask This: 'Would you ever cheat on me?'
Instead, Say This: 'What do you think of guys who cheat?'
What You'll Learn: Whether or not he's going to be faithful to you down the line.